Hi!
I am SO GLAD you’re here! I’ve got you!
Since they are anonymous, I can’t reply privately to these questions and to prevent the email to be too long, here are 3 replies to longer questions:
Anonymous question:
I always delivered exceptional results and was unexpectedly laid off…. I’m really struggling with severe insecurity because of it! Actually, I have been making it to final interview rounds repeatedly but have failed to secure offers… What can I do?! (Sorry, I cut parts of your question when posting it here for space reason)
Answer:
It’s never circumstances that make us feel a certain way but what we THINK about those circumstances, what we make them mean.
So:
Circumstance: laid off
Thought: What do you think about it? What do you make it mean?
Circumstances are actually neutral, what is essential is to discover what we THINK about those, what we make it mean 🙂
Probably, that’s where we will uncover the thought that makes you feel insecure… It’s not because you’ve been laid off that you feel insecure but it’s because of what you THINK about being laid off. So much power in YOUR HANDS 🙂
Anonymous question:
I recently discovered that my husband of almost 15 years has been battling narcotic addiction for at least a couple years if not, more. (…) My concern is he is so closed off that I still don’t know how long he was using and what he was using.
We are working to rebuild our marriage during this time, but I feel like his sobriety takes main priority. What can we do in order to help our marriage but also help with his choices in life, help regulate my emotions where I don’t trigger him? We both are in therapy, but nothing for us together at this time. Ive been having us do worksheets for relationship building. (Sorry, I cut parts of your question when posting it here for space reason)
Answer:
This coaching could go in different directions, these are a few questions for you:
Who do you want to be in that moment?
What kind of wife do you want to be?
We often think that we don’t have the choice, “that’s just who we are” but you can intentionally choose WHO you want to be right now. There are no rules 🙂
And an empowering question for you here would be: How can YOU take care of YOURSELF in this moment?
When you take care of yourself, you’ll indirectly take care of your husband and of your relationship because you are more at peace, calmer. So, in what way taking care of yourself is helping your husband and your relationship? And what would “taking care” of yourself look like?
Of course, there are no right or wrong answer here, take your time and remember that “you only need one person to improve a relationship” :), when you take care of yourself, you take care of everyone!
Anonymous question:
I’ve been in coaching for nearly a year with minimal progress… Where do I go from here?
Answer:
My first hunch is that if you’ve been in coaching for a while and haven’t seen the result you want yet, I wonder what do you make it mean…?
Maybe that “Something’s wrong with me,” “I can’t make a decision,” “I’m behind,” or “I should be further along”…?
How are you feeling at this point in your coaching journey?
We often make the past mean something about ourselves (about who we are and what we’re capable of (“I’m lost!”). But we can always choose what we want the past to mean!!
If you’re interested in getting coached and solving those FOR GOOD, click here and get coached! 🙂
