What does it even mean “to choose your battles wisely”?
And how can you become an expert at doing this?
Let me show you how to do it very practically!
What are the benefits of choosing your battles wisely?
What does it even mean?
Let’s start by giving more details about this!
What does it mean to choose your battles wisely?
When you hear someone saying “choose your battles wisely”, they mean that in our everyday life, there will be challenges.
And from those challenges, you can choose the ones you should focus on and the ones you should just let go of.
Doing both isn’t something easy to do because it means that you need to give up some control over something that you would like to have control of!
Let me give you an example to make it clearer.
You would like your partner to do more chores at home and also, to be spontaneous from time to time to go out for example.
Here, you can say that you have to “choose your battles” because you need to figure out what is very important to you in the first place and to start there.
The expression “choosing your battles” can apply when you really have a battle to fight and you should pick the one that really makes sense to fight for and not just one that is coming your way.
You need to save your energy for the very most important thing in your eyes.
What about choose your hard?
Life isn’t always easy!
You’ll face hard situations and challenges in your life.
There was an image back then that I saw that will explain exactly what it means to “choose your hard” in life.
Check it out:
As you can see, being in a relationship or being single can be hard, for example.
But what hard are you choosing?
What is worth fighting for, having negative emotions?
Think about it sometimes in some situations and ask yourself: What hard are you choosing?
By the way, it’s true that it may sound a bit negative to think like this, “choosing your hard”.
But, look at it more from a point of view of the decision-making process, it’s another tool that helps you decide what is important to you and what is worth fighting for! 🙂
How do I choose my battles wisely?
The way to do it is to ask yourself: What is the most important to me in this situation?
Let’s say that you have a great idea to share at work but you’re afraid of what your superior may say.
What is harder? Not to share an idea that you have or trying and getting rejected if it’s not appreciated?
Also in a relationship: What is the battle you’re more willing to fight for? The issues of being in a relationship or the issues of being single?
Choose your battles wisely! 🙂
To what is very important to you… What is worth “being hard”!
What should you fight for?
You first need to know what are your core values, which is very important to you.
This will always help you in making decisions and being more and more fulfilled. You can do this by grabbing my free PDF on how to discover your core values in 3 steps.
You also get a list of values:
By the way, check out my recent post on how choosing what your values are is essential: The Best List of Values Pdf: Discover What’s Most Important to You In Life
When you know what your core values are, you will know in a specific situation what you should be fighting for.
For example, you are hesitating between going out or staying at home.
I agree that it’s maybe a bit extreme to say in that situation that you need to “fight for” something 😉 but stay with me!
What should you fight for? For staying home because it’s what you really want to do and accept that you’re missing out on a night or something with your friends?
Or should you fight for going out and letting behind your need and wish to stay home?
Choose your hard quote
The quote that I wanted to share with you today is the following:
“To be healthy is hard. To be unhealthy is hard. Choose your hard.”
Choosing your hard and self-confidence…
Of course, it’s related! 🙂
The moment you know the tool and decision-making process of “choosing your hard”, you’ll feel more in control.
When you’re in control of your life, you’ll feel more confident.
Even if there’s no right or wrong decision, you’ll be confident that no matter what, you’ll be okay!
And that is an AMAZING feeling! 🙂
The cost of inaction/action
I want you to think about something.
If you’re taking action or not taking action, something’s happening.
For example, you would love to be working somewhere else.
Taking action (in that example looking for another job) is uncomfortable. You might face rejections and tiredness of applying for other jobs.
When you think about it, there is a cost of inaction too!
Staying in a job that you don’t like is also something that will cost you something. You might be bored or unfulfilled for example.
So, consider some results that you want to have in your life.
What is costing you the most? The cost of action or the cost of inaction?
Also, I remember reading somewhere that as humans, we will do more to avoid pain than to gain pleasure.
So, think about it: Is there any pain that you’re trying to avoid? Is there any pleasure that you’re trying to gain but the action is costing you too much?
To sum up!
As you can see, it’s not always easy to make a decision.
It’s not always easy to choose your hard and to pick your battles.
But, you can already be more aware of what is important to you and then, you will know what is worth for you to fight for or not!
You can do this! 🙂 It’s a skill to develop!
