What if you could be successful? It all starts with getting to know yourself better. Take the time to finally discover who you truly are!
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✓ Should I read this? Why not. This post aims to comprehensively walk you down the most informed and profound questions that will make you rediscover yourself. I am here to make you understand that you can still achieve your desired goals without compromising your values. Take the time to finally discover who you truly are!
✓ How is it going to help me? My joy is to see you more confident when making life choices. And that is what this post is all about. Sometimes you are torn between pleasing your family and chasing on your dreams. And it is not a simple decision to make. It is your family and job at stake. You can’t make a sound judgment if you don’t understand the person you are and what you intend to achieve. Now, this post is just about making you know yourself more in-depth and coming up with those hard to make decisions.
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Interested in becoming more successful by getting to know yourself better?
In fact, being more self-aware of who I truly am and what I want have helped me A LOT in building my self-confidence.
Let me show you how you can too! 🙂
Successful people know who they are
One thing about most successful people is their self-awareness!
You can’t be a success story if you don’t know who you are.
Put it this way; everything you experience in this life depends on how deep you understand yourself.
How to know yourself better questions then become vital!
It is your self-awareness that will directly inform your daily activities. And to a greater extent, your self-awareness will dictate whether you realize your dreams or not!
But more importantly, it is how much you know yourself that will determine your love life and relationships, and how you react to every feeling of joy and tragedy.
But to fully know yourself is deceptively challenging…
So, through this post, I intend to make you know yourself better. Knowing who you are is the first and foremost path to greatness.
You see, many of us compromise our values and attributes more than often to please those around us.
But that is not what successful people do!
Successful people do not change their personalities to suit anyone’s ego. They are unapologetically themselves, regardless of the situation.
What does it mean to know yourself?
Lao Tzu, an ancient Chinese Philosopher and writer, is quoted as saying, “He who knows others is wise. He who knows himself is enlightened.”
There have been more calls from different quarters, urging us to understand ourselves deeply.
They couldn’t be more candid than that.
The ancient Greek even went ahead and inscribed the words “know yourself” on the Temple of Apollo. To them, this would act as a reminder to anyone who ever fell short of understanding themselves. It also served as a source of wisdom.
But how do I get to know myself better?
Maybe this is just some cliché used by over-ambitious people. Or perhaps it could be a catchy phrase with deep meaning and substance in it. It could help if we put side by side the different aspects of self-knowledge.
First, it would be prudent to appreciate how we think.
More importantly, we should identify what motivates our beliefs. Only then can you get to know yourself better.
Even as you grapple with questions to know yourself better, I want you to know this.
Most of the time, we tend to assume and believe that other people think the same way we do!
I mean, you sit down and figure out what you want to do with your life. You then realize you need to finish up some course, get a job, and settle down with your family. For you, this is the course everyone is taking.
You could be right.
However, you need to have this at the back of your mind.
It is usual for us to imagine that we all think the same way.
However, I have carried out specific training based on decision making. I have also done numerous personal development research. I have come to realize that there are massive differences in the way people think! 🙂
So here is the thing.
There is an excellent value in discovering the differences in our beliefs and appreciating similarities that exist. Only then can we see the perception of others.
You can know yourself better by just trying to understand the other person.
Why is knowing yourself important?
It is normal to spend time worrying about our relationships with friends and families. As human beings, we are conditioned to do so.
Nonetheless, you fail to realize that the only relationship that should matter, and which is extremely important, is the one you have with yourself! 🙂
Is it not true that the only person who is by your side during your life journey is you?
This might sound melancholic, but it is the indisputable truth.
It is only you from the time of your birth to the moment you are laid in your grave.
Now, that is how meaningful the relationship with yourself should be.
Let’s look at the three most fundamental reasons for self-knowledge:
Self-love
Listen to this. You know your weaknesses and you understand your strengths.
Don’t you think it would be easier to accept yourself if you fully understand who you are? Knowing everything about yourself will make you love yourself more than you can even imagine! 🙂
Freedom
If you are assertive about yourself and your opinions, no amount of persuasion will change your mind.
I mean, if you understand what works for you and what doesn’t, what others think of you might just be irrelevant. If you are independent of other people’s opinions and aware of your personality, then your confidence level grows.
You can’t claim to be yourself if you don’t know yourself! 🙂
Well, thought out decisions
Knowledge is a powerful tool that can transform a society!
Information itself is empowerment. If you are knowledgeable, there are higher chances that you become more confident and more insightful. It is more comfortable making a decision when you got all the information at the back of your hands?
“It is hard to imagine a more stupid or more dangerous way of making decisions than by putting those decisions in the hands of people who pay no price for being wrong.” – Thomas Sowell
What are the benefits of being yourself?
A short story about myself: growing up, I paid so much attention to what people thought about me!
I grew up an anxious and excited kid, always shy to take up a challenge. Why? First, because I feared criticism, and secondly, I didn’t want to take in any negativity from anyone! 🙂
And this affected me severely. I allowed people’s opinions to prevent me from realizing my full potential. Consequently, I missed many opportunities and certain essential aspects of childhood growth.
But how did I deal with the situation?
I tried a much as I could to fit in. I avoided anything that made me feel different from others. However, the more I cared about other people’s opinions about me, the more I felt alienated. It wasn’t easy!
The moment you get to know yourself, you will realize how it’s entirely wasteful to think about other people’s thinking.
And here are the reasons you need to keep your identity intact:
- Being yourself is a sign of confidence!
- You will find your passion if you know yourself!
- If you are living the best version of yourself, you will probably inspire several people!
- If you accept the person you are, you will easily accept other people too. Accepting other people the way they are is a step towards building a strong relationship!
- Pretending to be someone else you are not is not only tricky but also stressful. You can avoid all that by being yourself!
How do you discover the real you?
Knowing yourself is the most significant capital you could ever possess! 🙂
Why do I say this?
You see, life generally is a trial and error game.
You keep trying each day, some fail, some tick. But you don’t give up. You wake up each morning, more revitalized, ready to take on new challenges.
When you know yourself, you will know what to do.
Knowing yourself is a mark of confidence and independence.
Now, how do you discover the real you?
- Be silent, and initiate internal conversation.
- Get to know who you are, and not what you want to be!
- Identify what you are good at!
- Discover your passion, and nurture it in the best way only you can!
- Always try to get feedback from friends and family. Hearing from others might help you know yourself better.
What are some good questions to help you know yourself better?
Get to know yourself better by going through these 50 questions.
Take your time to think of the answers! 🙂
You might be surprised by what they will be… 🙂
- What is important to me, what are my core values?
- Imagine yourself the day you’ll die (as older and as healthier as possible!), looking back at your life, how do you want it to look like? At what souvenirs are you looking at?
- How do you want to be remembered? Here, for example, I wish that people will remember me as someone who’s smiling, enthusiastic, interesting to talk to… 🙂
- What are my strengths and talents?
- What do I worry about? Maybe it only about my legacy once I am gone.
- What am I passionate about? What do I like to do if I have free time? On holidays and weekends?
- What am I grateful for?
- What are my beliefs about life, and are they valuable?
- Are you an extreme introvert or a vivacious soul?
- What is it that you could say deeply describe your personality?
- Could you explicitly define your ideal environment?
- Can you take risks head-on?
- Are you comfortable working under immense pressure? Knowing when you can perfectly perform is of the essence.
- What are your striking strengths? You should know your strengths and use them to your advantage.
- Do you have some nagging weaknesses that keep holding you back?
- What are the unique traits that set you apart from the rest? It is essential to know your identity.
- Imagine your doctor calls in the middle of the night. He informs you will be living your last two days. How would you react to that? And what would you do that you have never done?
- You wake up one morning to the news that you have hit the jackpot. You are the proud winner of $100, 000, 000. How does that change your life? How do you spend the amount?
- Do you think you are generally a happy soul? If not, what is holding back your happiness?
- Do you ever tell lies? I mean, what is the biggest lie you have had to make to get away with something?
- Undoubtedly, one day you will die. What is it you wish would be during your funeral?
- What is your excellent day like?
- What spheres of life would you say you have identified your passion?
- Do you feel something is missing in your life? Is there something you can do about it?
- Have you fully felt appreciated by friends and family? Have you been in love with someone before?
- Do you believe everything happens in your life for a reason, or is t by fate?
- What is the most regarded asset in your life?
- Which one do you prefer; spending time by yourself or with someone by your side?
- Do you have something in your life you secretly feel ashamed of?
- What is the most significant limit to your dreams?
- What is that one thing that you are so passionate about?
- How can you use the above answer to change your society?
- What do you believe is your greatest strength?
- How do you handle your money? Are you a free spender or a miser?
- Could you look back in your life and say some people held your hand and helped you walk the journey?
- If you were to go back to 10 years ago, what is that one thing you would do differently?
- What do you believe is the most achievable thing in life?
- There are many times you fail. Noe, how do you react to such moments?
- Are there times you rely on others to give you directions in life?
- Do you have short term goals in your life?
- What is that one thing you can look at and be proud of as your most revered accomplishment?
- What are those three things that would make you happy, regardless of your situation?
- What do you think is holding you back from living the life of your dream?
- Are there instances in your life where you felt unworthy and underestimated yourself/
- Generally, are you happy with your life and the people around you?
- What is your most enlightening moment?
- Are there moments in your life you feel you just want to be alone?
- If you were to change carriers, which is that that could make your life better?
- Do you ever feel the urge to compare your life to others?
- Have you ever believed in destiny?
What are some hard questions?
When it comes to self-discovery, it’s also important to ask yourself questions that are hard…
Take the time to find the answers to these questions, they are fascinating, right? 🙂
- Do you ever feel like some days are repeated in your life?
- Imagine there was no fear in the world, and nobody failed in anything they did. What would you do?
- What is that one thing you would look back and say you are much grateful for?
- Look at yourself and your life. Do you feel you are living the life you have always desired?
- What was the feeling when you first fell in love?
- What is your ideal definition of success?
How knowing yourself will help you boost your self-confidence!
Of course, if you’ve been following my podcast and everything that I share with you, you will know that I truly believe that getting to know yourself will help you undoubtedly in building your self-confidence! 🙂
Why is that?
For 3 main reasons.
The first one is by starting your self-discovery journey, it’s going to be a way to take care of yourself! And by doing this, you’re going to show that you care about yourself and that you are worth it! 🙂
This is already a great self-confidence boost.
Then, you’re going to discover what you’re good at, what are your strengths and talents. Those will be your resources, what you can use to reach what you always dreamt and hoped for! 🙂
And then the last reason is, knowing yourself better is helping you in being more comfortable with who you really are.
You know how comfortable it is to be at home? You know where is everything and it sounds secure and cozy!
So, it’s exactly the same when you know yourself! 🙂
You can better understand your thoughts, your emotions and your reactions.
You have more control and it just feels super relaxing and comforting!
As you can see, there are only benefits of getting to know yourself better! 🙂
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It’s packed with straightforward and clear information on how to develop this skill, so you can have full control of your life! 🙂
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To sum up!
The first step to creating self-awareness is by interviewing yourself! 🙂
It is the awareness that turns into reality. The questions to know yourself better should be the ultimate guide to redefining your personality!
What are you waiting for to get to know yourself better, to have control of your life so you can be as successful as you always dreamt to be? 🙂
You may also be interested in…
- Why Is Self Awareness Important?
- 5 Questions to Ask Yourself
- 30-Day Self-Care Challenge Ideas
- 10 Burning Questions About Self-Confidence and Self-Esteem

Maybe I have left some vital questions on how to know yourself better.
Well, that could only be unintentional. BUT, you can still share with us what you feel left out! 🙂
Let me know in the comments section 🙂
Really loved this Article. Loved the feeling like I am a whole complete person now but it was different before as I was living others life. I am thankful to you for writing a great article on Self awareness and knowing ourselves better. Now this is my favourite website for reading articles because I love reading articles. 🤩
Hi Tamara, these are great questions to ask ourselves. I have difficulty imagining myself at old age and looking at what ‘souvenirs’ I have/want.
Every few years I ‘reinvent’ myself and what I want last year may not be important this year. It does make me wonder what will remain with me throughout the years as I keep changing and becoming a new person. Cheers!
Hi Deny!
Thank you for sharing your point of view!
I 100% agree. I used to write each year, at the end of December, what were my true wishes for the next year. And every December, reading the wishes that I wrote the year before… I agree with what you’re saying! You don’t always wish to live the same things!
Now that I’m thinking about it a bit more, I would more say instead of souvenirs but kind of “moments” that I want to look at. Like moments with my friends and family, moments learning things for myself… If that makes sense 🙂
Let’s be in touch in December or every few years when you “reinvent” yourself 🙂
Thank you for that Deny!
Great questions. I think that number 5 is very pertinent. There are probably many more questions but this is already a good start!
Thank you for this.
Thank you Luke!
If you think about other questions, feel free to share them with us! I would love to know 🙂