So glad you’re here!!
I’m passionate about confidence, so you’re in the right place! 🙂
In this article, we’ll dive into 7 key sections to help you build lasting confidence.
These include:
- 18 of my favorite confidence-building questions!
- Frequently asked questions about self-confidence and self-esteem!
- How to feel confident in social settings or public speaking!
- Best tools and practices to cultivate confidence!
- 12 fantastic journaling prompts for long-term confidence growth!
- 11 confidence questions I use when I coach my people!
- 28 inspiring quotes on self-confidence and self-esteem!
My 18 favorite confidence-building questions!
- What’s one thing I’ve done that I never thought I could?
- How do I define success for myself?
- When was the last time I felt truly proud of myself?
- What strengths have helped me overcome challenges?
- How would I act if I fully trusted myself?
- What’s one small step I can take today to boost my confidence?
- How do I want others to describe me?
- What’s one limiting belief I can challenge right now?
- What do I love most about myself?
- Who inspires me with their self-assurance, and what can I learn from them?
- What have I achieved that I haven’t celebrated yet?
- How can I be kinder to myself today?
- What areas of my life am I already thriving in?
- What advice would I give a friend who feels unconfident?
- What’s a positive change I’ve made recently?
- What’s one thing I used to struggle with but now find easy?
- How can I challenge a negative thought about myself today?
- What does my confident self look, feel, and act like?
8 frequently asked questions about self confidence and self-esteem!
What is the difference between self-esteem and self-confidence?
Self-esteem is how you feel about yourself at your core, it’s your sense of worth, no matter what’s going on!
It’s also your reputation with yourself, how much you trust and respect who you are when no one’s watching! 🙂
Self-confidence, on the other hand, is your belief in your abilities, it can go up and down depending on the task or situation.
Think of it this way: self-esteem is the soil where everything grows, and self-confidence is the flower that blooms when you take action.
One feeds the other, but they grow differently! 🙂
Why self-confidence is important?
Self-confidence is important because it helps you feel at peace with yourself, no matter what life throws your way! 🙂
When you trust your abilities and believe you can handle things, it’s easier to stay calm and grounded, even when the world around you feels chaotic…!
Self-assurance isn’t about being perfect, it’s about knowing you’ll figure things out and have your own back in any situation!
It gives you the freedom to move through life with less fear, more courage, and a sense that you’re exactly where you need to be! 🙂
Can you fake self-confidence?
Yes, you can fake Self-assurance and honestly, it’s okay if at first you don’t believe in it 100%! 🙂
Boldness doesn’t have to be perfect right out of the gate.
You can build it by looking back on moments where you showed up confidently, even if they felt small at the time…
Those experiences are proof that you’ve got it in you!
Here’s the thing: assurance grows also with action.
The more you act like the confident version of yourself that you want to become, the more natural it feels.
It’s like trying on new shoes!
They might feel a bit awkward at first, but soon enough, they fit like they were made for you!
Can self-confidence lead to success?
Well, it depends on what success means to you!
For me, I measure success by the amount of joy and fun I experience every day! 🙂
When you’re confident, it’s easier to chase what lights you up, try new things, and enjoy the process, because you know it’s okay if things don’t go perfectly…
True success isn’t just about achievements, it’s about feeling good in your own skin and living in a way that feels meaningful and fun!! 🙂
And when you approach life with assurance, you naturally create more space for those moments! 😊
Can meditation increase self-confidence?
Yes, meditation can increase self-worth!
It helps you quiet self-doubt, stay present, and become more aware of your thoughts, so you can replace negative patterns with supportive ones.
Over time, it builds a sense of inner peace and trust in yourself, no matter what life throws your way! 🙂
Why inner confidence may be low?
self-trust may be low for many reasons, it happens, and it doesn’t mean anything about the person feeling insecure! 🙂
We feel emotions, like insecurity, but we are not our emotions.
It’s just part of being human!
The important thing is to recognize it, be kind to yourself, and know that assurance can be rebuilt with time and practice…
How can I build my self-confidence?
Well, going through this article is already an amazing step! 🙂
Building assurance is something you cultivate over time, and it starts with realizing that being enough is a decision, not a destination!
And honestly? Getting coached is the BEST way to build assurance, it’s like a surgeon trying to operate on their own brain.
You just can’t see your blind spots on your own! 🙂
To help you along the way, grab the 11 thoughts I think every day to feel more confident! 😊
How can I stop comparing myself to others?
First, nothing has gone wrong when you compare yourself!
It’s totally normal, it’s just the primitive part of your brain trying to keep you safe and alive by making sure you fit in with the “tribe.”
So, it’s not a problem that it shows up! 🙂
The awesome question to ask yourself after noticing these thoughts is:
What is this person modeling for me?
What are they showing me that I want for myself and my life?
This shift helps turn comparison into inspiration! 🙂
How to feel confident in social settings or public speaking!
It’s not the event, social setting, or presentation that makes us feel insecure, it’s our thoughts about the event that create those feelings! 🙂
Someone who doesn’t feel confident might think things like:
- “I’m not sure I belong.”
- “I’m different from everyone here.”
- “People are judging me.”
- “I’m not good enough.”
- “What if I mess up?”
But it’s okay, I have a solution for you! 😉
The Solution:Expect these sneaky thoughts to pop up, that’s totally normal!
It’s just the primitive part of your brain trying to keep you alive by making sure you stay part of the “tribe.”
Nothing has gone wrong.
This part of your brain thinks it’s helping, but you can choose what to do next.
The way to handle these thoughts is to expect them and then redirect your mind to uplifting thoughts like:
- “I was born enough.”
- “I belong wherever I decide to show up.”
- “I have nothing to prove.”
- “I trust myself to figure things out.”
With practice, these empowering thoughts can shift your focus, helping you feel more confident and grounded, no matter the situation! 🙂
YOU’VE GOT THIS!!
Best tools and practices to cultivate confidence!
Over the years, I’ve built up a toolbox full of awesome tools, insights, and mindset shifts from coaching people on assurance for almost a decade…
But this model right here? It’s my favorite! 🙂
This framework, which I’ve practiced and mastered through one of my three coaching certifications, is rooted in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT).
At its core, CBT teaches that our thoughts create our reality, meaning that confidence is not something that just happens to us; it’s something we generate through the thoughts we cultivate every day! 🙂
Here’s how it works:
- Circumstances can trigger thoughts, but they don’t determine how we feel.
- Thoughts cause our feelings.
- Feelings drive our actions.
- Actions create our results, which, in turn, become the evidence that reinforces our thoughts.
So when it comes to confidence, it’s simple: believe something empowering, and you’ll generate the emotion of confidence!
Is it easy? Not always! Because our brain loves to fall back into old negative talk.
But the good news is that this is a practice you can learn and keep mastering for the rest of your life!! 🙂
And I’m here to help you every step of the way as your coach! 😊
Ready to take the next step?
Below, you can book a Get Unstuck Chat to start building the confidence you deserve!!
12 fantastic journaling prompts for long-term confidence growth!
- Create a “confidence playlist” and explain why each song makes you feel empowered!
- Write about a time you handled something difficult, how did you get through it?
- Visualize a day in your life where you show up fully confident, what does it look like?
- Write down your personal definition of self-worth and how it feels in your body.
- Describe what “being enough” means to you, and how you can embody it.
- List 5 ways you can show more self-compassion this week.
- Imagine you are mentoring someone who lacks assurance, what advice would you give?
- Describe a future version of yourself who feels unshakably confident, how did they get there? 🙂
- Write about what excites you most about your life right now.
- List 10 things you’ve achieved in life, no matter how small they seem!
- Create a gratitude list focused on what your body and mind allow you to do.
- Journal about a person you admire, what qualities do they embody that inspire you?
They are AMAZING, right? 🙂
11 confidence coaching questions I use when I coach my people!
In my coaching, I adapt to each person’s needs, making every session unique! 🙂
However, these are some empowering questions I often find myself asking, guiding clients toward greater assurance and self-belief…
- What would change if you showed up as the most confident version of yourself today?
- What’s holding you back from believing in yourself right now?
- If you trusted yourself fully, what decision would you make today?
- What is your inner critic saying?
- What do you gain by holding onto self-doubt?
- What would you say to a friend in your exact situation?
- What’s one area of your life where you feel more confident than you used to? How did you get there?
- What’s the worst that could happen if you showed up fully? And how would you handle it?
- What belief do you need to let go of to build the confidence you want?
- How would your future self, who’s already confident, approach this situation?
- How do you want to feel about yourself by the end of this week?
- What would shift if you saw yourself through the eyes of someone who loves you?
28 Inspiring quotes on self-confidence and self-esteem!
- “It is assurance in our bodies, minds and spirits that allows us to keep looking for new adventures, new directions to grow in, and new lessons to learn – which is what life is all about.” – Oprah Winfrey
- “Each time we face our fear, we gain strength, courage, and assurance in the doing.” – Theodore Roosevelt
- “Concentrate more on your achievements than your failures. Learn to take the failures as opportunities to rectify your errors.” – Stephen Richards
- “Never bend your head. Always hold it high. Look the world straight in the eye.” – Helen Keller
- “Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds trust and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy.” – Dale Carnegie
- “Confidence is preparation. Everything else is beyond your control.” – Richard Kline
- “You have to believe in yourself when no one else does – that makes you a winner right here.” – Venus Williams
- “Confidence is not, ‘They will like me.’ Confidence instead is, ‘I’ll be fine if they don’t. ‘” – Christina Grimmie
- “Successful people have fear, successful people have doubts, and successful people have worries. They just don’t let these feelings stop them.” – T. Harv Eker
- “Life is not easy for any of us. But what of that? We must have perseverance and above all confidence in ourselves. We must believe that we are gifted for something and that this thing, at whatever cost, must be attained.” – Marie Curie
- “Once you feel nice about yourself, you have planted the first seed to develop self-worth.” – Stephen Richards
- “Confidence is one of the most desired attributes and when you manage to wear it in the way it is meant to, life will seem to be a lot happier for you.” – Elijah Conner
- “Nothing can stop the man with the right mental attitude from achieving his goal; nothing on earth can help the man with the wrong mental attitude.” – Thomas Jefferson
- “A diamond doesn’t start out polished and shining. It once was nothing special, but with enough pressure and time, becomes spectacular. I’m that diamond.” – Solange Nicole
- “Have confidence that if you have done a little thing well, you can do a bigger thing well too.” – David Storey
- “In the darkest hours we must believe in ourselves.” – Terry Goodkind
- “Because one believes in oneself, one doesn’t try to convince others. Because one is content with oneself, one doesn’t need others’ approval. Because one accepts oneself, the whole world accepts him or her.” – Lao Tzu
- “Whether you think you can or think you can’t, you are right.” – Henry Ford
- “Belief in yourself is more important than endless worries of what others think of you. Value yourself and others will value you. Validation is best that comes from within.” – Ngũgĩ wa Thiong’o
- “Another way to inspire confidence is by smiling. A simple smile can be a doorway for many opportunities. It suggests that you are accommodating, willing to listen, and friendly.” – Mick McPherson
- “If you believe it will work out, you’ll see opportunities. If you believe it won’t you will see obstacles.” – Wayne Dyer
- “With greater confidence in yourself and your abilities, you will set bigger goals, make bigger plans and commit yourself to achieving objectives that today you only dream about.” – Brian Tracy
- “I had the chance to make every possible mistake and figure out a way to recover from it. Once you realize there is life after mistakes, you gain a self-respect that never goes away.” – Bob Schieffer
- “Whatever course you decide upon, there is always someone to tell you that you are wrong. There are always difficulties arising which tempt you to believe that your critics are right. To map out a course of action and follow it to an end requires courage.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson
- “Action is a high road to self-belief and self-esteem.” – Bruce Lee
- “You’ve been criticising yourself for years and it hasn’t worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens.” – Louise Hay
- “Believe you can and you’re halfway there.” – Theodore Roosevelt
- “Confidence is a gift, given to you by yourself. To have it costs nothing but to not have it comes with an immeasurable price tag.” – Debbie Dickerson
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I hope this article was useful! 🙂
Go back to it when you’ll need a little boost!
To sum up with your self-worth!
You’re now more familiar with self-assurance and self-esteem, right? 🙂
As I mentioned, being aware of your desire to boost your assurance is already a significant point in the journey. You’re doing great!
Keep following what I have to say on this fabulous topic of self-trust, and you’ll succeed in becoming the most assured person you know! Remember to compliment yourself along the way, you deserve it! 🙂
