These are the 8 burning questions you always asked yourself about self-confidence. Get the answers you’re looking for and get ready to build your boldest self!
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✓ Should I read this? You may have asked yourself questions about self-confidence. If you’re interested in finally get them answered, then this article is for you! If you’re just curious to know more about self-confidence, this will also interest you 🙂
✓ How is it going to help me? By learning more about self-confidence, you’ll be more familiar with the subject and you’ll be able to build this skill. The result will be you being more self-confident 🙂 so it’s definitely going to help you 😉
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8 questions about self confidence
You’ve been asking yourself questions about self-confidence, but you don’t want to spend all day googling and finding the answers yourself.
I’ve compiled all the burning questions that I’ve received from my readers into one single post!
With this post, you’ll get a more general understanding of self-confidence and all of its components.
Are you ready?
Let’s discover these 10 burning questions everybody’s asking about self-confidence:
- How can I be more self-confident?
- What is self-confidence?
- Why self-confidence is important?
- Where does self-confidence come from?
- Can you fake self-confidence?
- Can self-confidence lead to success?
- Can meditation increase self-confidence?
- Why self-confidence may be low?
The questions answered
1. How can I be more self-confident?
So, to answer this question very quickly, everybody can become more self-confident.
I truly believe that each and every one of us has the ability to feel great about who we really are!
From my own experiences and my work as a life coach and teacher, I discovered that everything we need to become more self-confident is already somewhere inside of us.
Since it’s already somewhere inside of us, EVERYBODY can become more self-confident!
I have absolutely no doubts about this.
How to do it properly?
1. Be aware of wanting to become more self-confident.
The moment we become more self-aware, we are already halfway because we’re taking care of the problem that we want to solve.
2. Learn tips and tricks on how to feel more self-confident in specific situations of your life.
Check out the post and podcast I created 7 Ways To Boost Your Self-Confidence that I summarized here:
- Compare yourself to people that are inspiring you to be the best version of yourself
- Get 2-3 self-confidence heroes
- Listen to your positive inner voice and take that action!
- Talk to yourself like you would talk to someone that you love!
- Take care of yourself
- Create boundaries for yourself
- You are good enough, “why you?” Ask yourself instead… “Why not you?”
3. Self-confidence is a skill that everyone can develop.
So over time and with practice, you’ll build this self-confidence and you’ll feel happier and more secure every day of your life.
4. As yourself: Where do you see yourself in 5 years?
If you’re starting today to build this self-confidence, you will be in a completely different place and mindset in 5 years from now! 🙂
5. Enjoy the process while waiting for the results.
I know that we want quick results!
But imagine if you would want to be a great pianist, even just as a hobby! You wouldn’t imagine becoming one in a second, right?
Building your self-confidence also take time, but you can still enjoy the process while waiting to see amazing results, I can assure you this! 🙂
Just doing a quick flashback.
About 6 years ago, I started getting interested in self-confidence. I wanted to stop comparing myself to others and to feel better being who I truly was!
But honestly, I didn’t know at all where to start!? What book to read? What course to take?
I thought of knowing myself better and then developing my self-confidence, but again, I had no strategy, no idea on how/where to start!
So again, just to tell you that you’re not alone 🙂 I’ve been there, I know exactly where you are and where you want to go.
I’m going to help you get there! 🙂
2. What is self-confidence?
Self-confidence is a skill that can make you feel AMAZING being the person that you truly are.
I LOVED this article that is listing the 8 components of like they call it, true inner self-confidence!
I created a chart for you to understand easily all the components part of being really self-confident:
As you can see, self-confidence is kind of a “mix” of all these 8 components.
I’m not sure that I would say that there is one that is more important than the others, but it’s interesting to think which one you feel like you would need help with! It’s already a great start 🙂
Now that you can see that there are many components, it confirmed that everything is inside of you, and that you “just” need to take it out! 🙂
I will definitely create another article and podcast episode about these 8 components with more details. Stay tuned for that! 🙂
3. Why self-confidence is important?
Having self-confidence helps in 4 ways:
1. No matter what, you know that you will be okay!
Knowing that you can do something AND that if you don’t succeed at it, you’ll be okay!
This is also called being resilient. Check this other post and podcast that I created about How To Build Your Resilience And Boost Your Self-Confidence.
2. Beating your fears.
When you are self-confident, you’re not afraid of taking action. You still have fears, but you don’t make them mean anything! 🙂
3. Feeling amazing being who you truly are.
You know that you’re not perfect and you are embracing this vulnerability of yours because this is the proof that you’re just a human being! 🙂
You’re accepting your weaknesses and use your strengths as resources to achieve anything that you want!
4. You have better and stronger relationships.
When you feel good with yourself and about yourself, your relationships get better. You are more authentic (because you feel good being who you truly are!) and when you’re more authentic, you connect on a deeper level with others.
4. Where does self-confidence come from?
I receive emails with the title “where is my self-confidence?” and I really understand!
You may wonder: Why is it that some people are so confident and some others aren’t? What happened here?
Self-confidence is really like playing the piano, playing basketball or being amazing at public speaking! All of them are skills that you can develop! And self-confidence isn’t the exception!
So, I truly believe that self-confidence comes from our inner self! We all have the possibility to develop this precious skill and I wish we would learn this at school!
It’s so useful for EVERY situation of our everyday life!!! 🙂
5. Can you fake self-confidence?
You probably heard the famous “fake it until you make it”.
I must say that I’m 50% agreeing with this mantra.
I think that when you first start building your self-confidence, it’s okay to fake it a bit.
For example, you have a presentation at work and you’re not 100% confident.
You can start by doing this but then, the real skill that you will develop won’t be a fake one.
I’m truly convinced that over time, you can build strong and real self-confidence and that you won’t need to fake it anymore.
I liked this post about faking self-confidence: “Fake it ‘til You Make it“.
He’s giving information about body language and how starting by faking being confident with your body will actually increase your self-confidence. Interesting!
6. Can self-confidence lead to success?
The more you are self-confident, the mort you’ll be a magnet to success! 🙂
It will help you any aspect of your life which will make you more successful. But what does it mean to be more successful actually, to you?
Think about it and then, have a look at this post that I wrote about the habits of successful people.
7. Can meditation increase self-confidence?
Yes and yes! 🙂
Being more centered on yourself or feeling a deeper connection to yourself, these are just 2 small examples of how much meditation can help you increase your self-confidence.
Basically, the more you will feel good being who you truly are, the more self-confident you’re going to be.
So meditation can definitely be a great method for you to develop this skill!
Also, meditation has so many benefits that you will enjoy such as having more focus, feeling more relaxed, taking care of yourself, embracing quiet time… Check the effects it had on me, I’m talking about it in the post that I wrote especially about meditation!
8. Why self-confidence may be low?
I receive this question quite often and let me tell you something… If you’re wondering why your self-confidence may be low, you’re not alone!
And do you want to know why?
Because we never learned it at school… 🙁 unfortunately!
So it’s completely possible that you don’t feel too self-confident and let me tell you this again: it’s 100% NORMAL 🙂
So many people out there feel like this and starting by being aware of it is already a huge step!
Again, ask yourself, in 5 years from now, if you’re more self-confident, how can your life look like? It’s never too late! 🙂
To sum up!
You’re now more familiar with self-confidence.
As I said it, being aware of wanting to be more self-confident is already making you be halfway of the whole process! You’re doing great!
Keep on following what I have to say on this fabulous topic that is self-confidence and you’ll become the most self-confident person that you know! 🙂
Do you have other questions about self-confidence? Ask them in the comment section and I will gladly answer them!
You may also be interested in…
- Self-Esteem & Self-Confidence, What’s the Difference?
- 7 Ways To Boost Your Self-Confidence
- 15 Habits Of Extremely Successful People
- How To Build Your Resilience And Boost Your Self-Confidence