What if speaking confidently in public would be a skill you would finally be mastering?
I brought the expert on that topic!
Discover what Minoti has to share! 🙂
Let’s dive right in!
Who is Minoti Parikh?
Minoti is amazing!
She’s the founder of TPL Experiences (This Pampered Life Experiences).
I love their logo! 🙂
It’s full of color and life! 🙂
They are based in the UK and the thing that drives her and the company is a passion to increase the confidence, the communication skills, and well-being of individuals and teams.
They do that through personalized training programs and personal coaching programs for self-development and confidence.
She’s been doing this for the past 15 years, has worked with 200 organizations, and traveled across 25 countries to run programs on behalf of clients.
Minori is originally from India!
Back there, she was a master of ceremonies, a host, and used to present live corporate events (she did more than 1600 events), she even worked with the Prime Minister of India!
Then she relocated to the UK to marry the husband of her dreams.
Meet Minoti! 🙂
How did you get interested in the topic of self-confidence?
Minoti shares:
“For me, self-confidence has always been an issue that I personally struggled with as a child.
I had massive issues around communicating and confidence, I had problems communicating with my mom.
It has been a slow but steady journey towards understanding that self-confidence is something that you need to develop, it’s not something that is just handed over to you on a plate!
It’s really an on-going process of discovering who you are and developing your confidence and belief in your abilities.
When I joined university, I was pushed by my sister and my mom to participate in elocution competitions so that I could develop my confidence.
Again, at the start, I would get up on stage, completely freeze and get down! I never got beyond that freezing moment at the start!
And then I owned my own issues and I felt like “This is it, I need to speak up for myself! Nobody else will help me!”
From that moment, I became really good at speaking on stage!” 🙂
What is self-confidence?
Minoti says:
“I would describe self-confidence as a really personal thing.
Digging deep into who you are, what are your strengths, and then you need to develop that aspect of your life!
Then, you’re going to be confident about it and more sure about sharing this with others and that’s what self-confidence is about.
We cannot compare our self-confidence, we all have our own back story, we are very unique.
So, digging deep into who you are is another great way of understanding how you can improve your self-confidence.
It’s an on-going process!”
What made Minoti comfortable with public speaking?
Public speaking wasn’t one of Minoti’s skills! She learned it while practicing a lot!
Minoti shares:
“I think that public speaking is a skill that you learn over time, not something that you’re born with. I was far away from public speaking!
If you’re somebody who’s interested in becoming better at public speaking, you need to accept that there will be goof ups and there will be moments where you are not sure of what you’re saying but it’s absolutely natural! The biggest orators also feel this way!
And you can use that energy in a positive way!
You can go for a walk, you can do some meditation…
Try and look at how you can calm your nerves and second, be prepared to have those goof ups.
It’s not a life and death situation, just get over that moment and continue with your speech or your presentation!”
You are not your presentation!
I agree with Minoti saying that it’s not because one presentation/speech didn’t go the way we thought it would that it says a lot about us!
She says:
“We always think to be perfect all the time!
The best way is always to start with something, and then you can become better at it!
We may have huge expectations for ourselves… We tend to conclude that we are as good as our presentation!
But you are not supposed to judge your capabilities by your presentation.
There are so many things that can go wrong!
You just have to have the right expectations!” 🙂
I compared it to a kid that is learning how to walk.
We never think that he won’t succeed! We don’t measure his value to what he’s capable of doing…! 🙂
I feel like we tend to forget that when we become adults…
How do you feel right before going on stage?
Minoti always did live events, no recorded ones! 🙂
She did it for 15 years and it was hard work! It wasn’t an overnight success!
She shares the secret to success:
“Mentally, I just disconnected from the people around me.
Backstage, there are hundreds of things going on, so much chaos and you need to focus!
You need to switch off from that and focus on what you’re going to speak and nothing else.
Focus on the energy and what you’re going to share with the audience!
If you do that, you are becoming mindful of what you want to say, what you’re going to share, and how you’re going to make the audience feel.
You’re going to be fully present at that moment and that’s all that really counts!
1 practical advice to help one build their self-confidence?
Actually, through the episode, Minoti already shared a lot on how to build your self-confidence.
She adds:
“If you’re confused about knowing if you’re confident or not, whether you have the ability or not to share something with people, it’s very important to think about those questions:
- What makes you unique?
- What are your strengths?
- What is it that your family friends keep on telling you?
For example, maybe it’s: “You are so friendly!”
Write down what people love about you! And write down what makes you most happy.
When you have that in place, remind yourself about this every day and remind yourself this before you’re going to make a presentation, go to a job interview, etc.
Think about the answers and then go to what you’re going to do!
Another tip that I would share would be: Don’t overthink it.
It can be about your accent or the way you speak, just go out there, show up and speak up, and don’t wait for people’s validation to start doing what you really want to do or share what you really want to share!
Your own validation is enough!”
Minoti and I talked about the fact that we want other people to give us their approval but… Ours is the most important! 🙂
We should take the time to do it for us.
Are you waiting for other’s people opinions? That awareness doesn’t come overnight and over years!
How to find Minoti?
Minoti has so much to share and can help you so much!
Click right here to get to Minoti’s website!
You can book a call with her!
Minoti loves meeting new people and building relationships!
You can connect with her through her website, but also using Twitter or Linkedln!
Also, don’t forget that she’s the founder of TPL Experiences (This Pampered Life Experiences)!
Worth checking out and getting in touch! 🙂
To sum up!
I love how Minoti says that:
“You’re unique, there’s nobody like you!
Ask yourself: What makes you unique? What makes you happy?
Don’t be afraid to show up, share who you are and what you do, it will be a process, a journey, but you need to be patient!
Everybody has the ability to feel and be confident! It’s not only for certain people, we all have the ability to develop that skill! 🙂
Minoti is part of people that are changing the world, I’m so glad I had the opportunity to talk to her!
Thank you Minoti! 🙂
