Dealing with emotions is an absolute game-changer when it comes to your personal growth! 🙂
It’s about taking responsibility for what you’re feeling and getting to know yourself better!
I truly believe that understanding the inner workings of your mind is the ultimate superpower.
Let’s get this party started!! And get you super confident! No anxiety!!
Why confidence isn’t just a random trait…!
A lot of people think you’re either born with it or you’re not, like it’s some fixed trait you’re stuck with!
But the truth is, confidence is a skill that you can develop gradually over time! It’s not some mysterious phenomenon that only happens to lucky people; it’s a mindset you choose to adopt.
The nature of confidence is actually a decision you make every single day to trust yourself.
Confidence isn’t a lack of fear; it’s the willingness to move forward even when your hands are shaking.
To understand this, we have to look at the psychology of how we behave.
Most of us wait to feel ready before we take a leap, but that’s not how it works.
You develop confidence by doing the thing first and letting the feeling catch up later. It’s a strategy of action, not just a state of mind and relationship!
Instead of fighting your feelings, try to meet them with curiosity!
Research from Harvard suggests that practicing self-compassion can actually lower cortisol and help us bounce back faster from stress.
How to build confidence by understanding emotion!
To build confidence, we first need to explore what’s actually happening inside our bodies….
I still can’t believe that we teach so many complex subjects at school, yet we don’t learn how to handle our internal world!
Think of your emotional life as a psychological response to the world around you.
Here is the breakdown of what is actually going on:
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Emotions are lower-level biochemical reactions (like a vibration in your body).
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They originate in the subcortical regions of the brain, creating a physical state.
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Feelings are the mental associations we create based on those reactions.
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They happen in the neocortical regions and are influenced by your belief system.
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Self-confidence is the beautiful result of how we manage both!
When we understand this point of view, we realize that we are in the driver’s seat! 🙂
We aren’t just victims of our moods; we are the ones who assign meaning to them an situation.
Is confidence an emotion or a skill?
Actually, it’s a bit of both, and that’s the secret sauce!
When you have a strong sense of confidence, you feel calm and secure in your ability to succeed.
However, if you have little confidence, you might shy away from a new possibility because you feel nervous. A psychologist would likely point toward self-efficacy, which is your belief in your ability to solve problems! No worry!
This is why I say it’s a skill.
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You observe your emotions without letting them take the wheel.
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You demonstrate a commitment to your goals regardless of the vibration in your chest.
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This process helps build confidence and a steady foundation for your self-esteem.
It’s about training your brain to see that discomfort isn’t a stop sign, it’s just a sign that you’re growing!
When we stop ‘being’ the emotion and start ‘observing’ it, we gain clarity!
This process of emotional regulation is a key step in moving from reactive to proactive.
Dealing with the emotional rollercoaster…
We often experience negative emotions like anger, insecurity, or discomfort.
The first thing I want to say is: stop blaming yourself for these feelings! It’s important to realize that these aren’t harmful; they are just indicators of your needs and communication:
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Positive emotions show our needs are being fulfilled.
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Negative emotions show a need is currently unfulfilled (like the need for recognition or safety).
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Self-awareness allows you to see the emotion, name it, and move through it.
Don’t let the cognitive trap of feeling bad about feeling bad stop your progress.
Even when you feel nervous or emotional, you can still behave in a way that aligns with the person you want to become.
This is how you overcome the barriers that keep most people stuck in their comfort zones.
Explore the phenomenon of your own mindset!
From my point of view, the goal isn’t to delete every negative feeling from your life.
That’s impossible and honestly, it would be a bit boring! Instead, use your mindset to shape how you react to those feelings.
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Accept your humanness: You won’t be happy 100% of the time, and that’s totally okay.
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Stop the side-life: Don’t use overeating, overdrinking, or overworking to avoid your inner world.
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Unlock your potential: When you aren’t afraid of a specific emotional outcome, you become truly brave.
Brooke Castillo says that opening ourselves up to dive into the negative emotions will give us the full experience of what it means to be alive. I love that so much!!!
If you want to live life 100% and not just exist, you have to be willing to feel the tough stuff too.
Even in a breakup or a business failure, the pain is a reminder that you dared to care about something.
Why Being Emotional Makes You Super Brave
There is a huge stereotype that showing emotion is a weakness. I hear people say, I’m not talking about my feelings, I’m not a girl! 🙂
That is such a missed opportunity for connection! You connect with others when you share your personal growth and your deep thoughts.
In fact, feeling your feelings is one of the most courageous things anyone can do.
When you are willing to feel any emotion, whether it’s embarrassment or pride, you become unstoppable.
Why? Because you won’t be afraid of whatever emotion you might encounter while taking action. You become a genius at navigating your own life.
To Sum It All Up!
As you can see, your feeling and your skill set are deeply intertwined. Building self-confidence requires you to look at yourself with curiosity and fascination rather than judgment.
The moment you become aware of what’s going on inside and learn to handle it, you unlock a new version of yourself.
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Understanding your emotions leads to…
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Taking action despite the fear, which leads to…
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Building self-confidence that is actually steady and real.
You really need to read my other posts about taking action if you want to dive deeper into this! Because no matter the outcome, you will be okay.
You will know how to deal with the results, whether they are good or bad.
Are you ready to be more gentle towards yourself and others today? Will you commit to practicing this skill every day?
Mastering your emotions isn’t just about feeling ‘fine’, it’s about building a foundation for growth! 🙂
Studies show that understanding our emotional landscape expands our ability to take risks and believe in ourselves.
Understanding your feelings is the ultimate key to building the life you’re actually excited to live! You’ve got this!
And do what you can with your emotions, don’t feel like you have to do like other people!
