If you’re going on dates, you’re going to face rejection.
Until that moment, nothing has gone wrong! It’s totally part of the process!
Let me show you how to deal with it the right way!
How to deal with dating rejection
Let’s discover together what are these 6 things you need to consider when it comes to dealing with dating rejection!
Are you ready for it?
Let’s do this!
1. Question the word “rejection”!
Think about it for a second!
What does the word “rejection” mean to you?
When you really take the time to think about it, “rejection” is something totally neutral until we make it mean something about us!
“Rejection” actually means that someone is saying “no, thank you, not right here, right now”.
But most of the time, we make it mean so much more!
We think that something’s wrong with us! That we don’t deserve love, that we will never find it etc.!
So, take the time to really ask yourself: Can something else be true about the word “rejection”? Is it as bad as we make it sound?
Down the line, it’s absolutely not that bad! Until we make it mean something!
This is the best way to learn how to deal with rejection!
2. Shift your mindset: it’s part of the process!
Imagine yourself 6 months from now: You are in a relationship.
Knowing that you will be 100% sure in a relationship in 6 months from now, that it’s a sure thing, how different would you feel today?
How different would you show up?
Imagine that being in a relationship is reaching the top of that pyramid.
And so, every date you’ve been on is a stone that is part of building that pyramid!
So, every date is totally part of the process!
How different would you look at every obstacle/challenge you’re encountering on your way there? 🙂
It’s a totally different mindset that can definitely set you free from the story you’re telling yourself! 🙂
And it’s one of the ways to learn how to deal with rejection!
3. Nothing has gone wrong AT ALL! 🙂
We are quite used to getting what we want when we want it: Food, scrolling down, watching TV…
Everything is very accessible and all the time!
So, when we don’t get what we want (a relationship), we make it sound like something’s wrong with us!
But as I always say, it’s not what is happening to us that makes us feel a certain way but our thoughts about it, our interpretation of it!
So, remind yourself that what is happening to you is totally neutral until you make it mean something about yourself.
This is very empowering because again, it shows you that despite the fact that sometimes it’s hard to go out there, date many people, etc., you can totally CHOOSE what you want to make it mean about yourself!
And reassure yourself that all of this adventure has nothing to do with your self-worth or the fact that you can be loved or not! 🙂
4. Sometimes, you will also reject people and that’s ok!
Have you thought of this? 😉
You don’t fall in love with everyone you meet either, right? 🙂
I think that we shouldn’t make it mean more than what it actually is: We just don’t feel like something can happen with that person and that’s it!
We don’t have to make it mean anything about them or us! 🙂
Imagine if we wouldn’t make such a big deal or tell ourselves stories when we don’t want to pursue this thing with someone or when someone doesn’t want to do it with us?
It will make all of our lives so much easier! 🙂
And this may go also with the idea of how to reject a date…
5. Go on many dates with many people, it’s just one fish in the ocean!
As I always say, when you follow my process and you go on dates with many people, this person you’re talking to and that you saw a few times is just a fish in the ocean!
It’s one out of the many others you’re talking to! 🙂
This is one of the reasons why I think it’s amazing to go on dates with many people!
Finding love is like finding a job: You need to put yourself out there and go on many interviews!
Also, when you meet many people, it can be very interesting, there are things that can be super interesting about the whole process, there is always something to learn! 🙂
6. These rejections are our best teachers!
When we feel rejected, we are feeling negative emotions and most of the time, we don’t allow them to just be there!
Emotions are going to be there just for 90 seconds!
The most important thing we can do in life for ourselves is to learn how to allow negative emotions.
So, deep down, these people are helping us because they help us discover who we are, how we are feeling, and deal with what we are feeling!
If you want to learn how to master your emotions, you have to check out this amazing post: 6 Steps To Mastering Your Emotions [Infographic]!
Also, sometimes, we may see the experience of going on dates as “all or nothing”!
Or, it’s going to be a complete fail or we’re going to meet the love of our life!
What if there was a grey area between this black and white?
What if something else is possible?
To sum up!
As you can see, “rejection” doesn’t say anything about you or your ability to find love until you make it mean something!
It’s totally neutral!
I agree that it’s not fun to feel negative emotions, but what if all of this was part of the process?
What if in 6 months from now, you would be in a relationship?
How different would you feel today? How different would you behave? 🙂
