How would you feel knowing that you are totally likable?
To become someone people want to be around?
No matter if it’s someone you’ve known forever or a person you’ve just met, I have THE solution for you.
In fact, this is what a client of mine did for the past year and it changed EVERYTHING to her.
The technique that she followed is called “The Listening Ear Technique”.
Keep reading to get more details on how you can use the same strategies to become the most likable person that you know!
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Why can it be hard to be likable?
One of the best feelings in the world is to be loved for who we truly are, right?
So, it may sound hard to be likable when we show our true selves!
We may wonder: Am I going to be liked if I’m saying this? Shouldn’t I share my opinion on this?
You see how it can get tricky!
Also, because we never learned at school any recipe for being super likable!
These are the reasons why it can be hard to be likable…
Until you discover my technique! 🙂
How do I become someone people want to be around? The Listening Ear Technique!
Before giving you more details about The Listening Ear Technique, let me list you the main benefits of being likable:
1. You are building a solid network!
When you are more likable, you are getting along with a lot of people. This means that you are getting more and more contacts and building a strong network.
These people can become friends, lovers, colleagues, we never know! 🙂
2. You are creating stronger relationships!
Of course, the relationships that you currently have become stronger. You are connecting on a deeper level and the moments spent with your people will make you and them happier than ever! 🙂
3. You are boosting your self-confidence!
By using the technique, you will love being there for others!
You’re going to make them feel good around you and this my friends, is an amazing self-confidence boost! 🙂
How do I become likable?
Here are the 3-steps that make up The Listening Ear Technique:
1. Ask more questions and look into the person’s eyes.
2. Make them feel valuable and important.
3. Refrain from giving advice.
The whole technique is about making you super likable by simply LISTENING carefully and by BEING genuinely interested in others.
The problem is that we think that we need to give advice and to talk to make someone else feel great or feel better.
Actually, you’ll be way more helpful and likable if you’re just acknowledging this person, what she is and what she is saying!
It’s not only working with deep conversations or debates but also with the very short encounters we are doing every day of our life! No matter where and with whom! 🙂
The Listening Ear Technique in 3 steps
Let me give you more details about each one of them:
Step #1: Ask more questions and look into the person’s eyes.
When someone is talking, be genuinely interested in what they are sharing.
Most of the time, we listen while “waiting” for our turn to talk!
From now on, use this time to really listen to what this person is saying, only listen.
Ask more questions to understand better and look at this person’s eyes as much as possible.
When you’ll start doing this, you’ll wonder how you did all of your life without properly listen…!
Step #2: Make them feel valuable and important.
As I always say, human beings just want to be seen, heard and understood.
Make this person feel valuable and important by using sentences such as:
- What you are saying is interesting!
- I understand what you mean!
- Good point!
- Interesting…
- I’ve never thought of this…
- I totally agree!
- It definitely makes sense…
Step #3: Refrain from giving advice.
This is where the technique is a bit different from what we all have been doing…
It’s a complete change of paradigm that I’m offering you here!
You will be very likable by being there for the other one, by listening to what they are saying and making them feel valuable!
You do not have to give any advice.
Unless they ask you for it with questions such as “What do you think that I should do?” or “If you would be me, what would you do?”, do not tell them what to do.
In life coaching, we truly believe in others that they have the resources to find all the answers to their questions and solutions to their problems.
You don’t have to be a life coach to do the same! 😉
Help them by asking questions and give them the power to believe in themselves, they can do it! You can help them by being there for them, making them feel valuable and important! 🙂
Be authentic, be genuine!
No matter what word is talking to you the most, keep in mind that using The Listening Ear Technique means that you HAVE TO do it and to be 100% authentic and genuine!
To be likable is all about authentically listen to someone else and genuinely making them feel valuable and important!
The Listening Ear Technique works with everyone you know!
The greatness about The Listening Ear Technique is that it will make you more likable no matter who you’re using with!
You can use it with people you just met and people that you have known since forever!
No matter if it’s…
- The barista at your favorite coffee place!
- The employee at the post office!
- Your kid
- Your best friend
- Your father
- Your boss
- Your spouse
- …As you can see, everyone! 🙂
How using The Listening Ear Technique can help you build your self-confidence…
The more you will use this technique, the more you’ll become an extremely likable person.
People wanting to be around you and enjoying it will make you feel great about yourself!
This is already a great boost for your self-confidence! 🙂
Also, by following the 3 steps of this technique and by seeing its immediate results, you’re going to show to yourself that YOU CAN DO IT! And so that you have your own back, you will believe in yourself and your abilities more! 🙂
To sum up!
As you can see, you can become a much more likable person by applying the 3 steps of The Listening Ear Technique.
You discovered that giving advice and talking isn’t essential when it comes to being more likable.
Just be there for others, listen genuinely to what they are saying and by making them feel valuable and important, you’ll become super likable! 🙂
