You’ve probably heard of the famous 36 Questions to Fall in Love, created by psychologist Arthur Aron!
They were designed to bring two people closer through deep, meaningful conversation.
But after coaching 1,000+ people and being married for over a decade, I’ve found that some questions hit even deeper.
So, I created my own 44 questions, let’s dive in and see where they take you! ❤️
44 questions to ask to fall in love!
- If you could relive one moment from your life, just to feel it again, what would it be?
- What is something about you that most people misunderstand?
- What is a small, everyday thing that always makes you happy?
- What’s a belief or value that has shaped your life the most?
- What’s a risk you’ve taken that changed your life?
- If you could master any skill overnight, what would it be and why?
- What’s one thing you’ve never told anyone but feel comfortable sharing now?
- How do you typically show love, and how do you like to receive it?
- If you could spend a day in someone else’s life, whose would it be and why?
- What’s a childhood memory that still makes you laugh?
- What’s something you wish you could go back and tell your younger self?
- If you could create a tradition for your future self and loved ones, what would it be?
- What’s one decision you made that completely changed your path in life?
- What kind of legacy do you want to leave behind?
- If you had to describe your personality in three words, what would they be?
- What’s something you’re currently working on within yourself?
- If you could have an unlimited supply of one thing in life (not money), what would it be?
- When was the last time you felt completely at peace?
- What’s a compliment you’ve received that really stuck with you?
- If you could design the perfect way to spend a day together, what would it look like?
- What’s a moment in your life when you felt truly seen and understood?
- How do you handle difficult emotions, and what helps you feel better?
- If you could ask your future self one question, what would it be?
- What’s something you’re passionate about that most people don’t know?
- If your partner could only remember one thing about you forever, what would you want it to be?
- What’s an experience you’ve had that felt truly magical?
- What do you think makes a relationship strong and lasting?
- What’s one thing you appreciate about yourself that you rarely acknowledge?
- What’s a dream you’ve had that you let go of—and would you ever chase it again?
- If someone could read your mind for a day, what would surprise them the most?
- How do you know when you really trust someone?
If you could live anywhere in the world for a year, where would it be and why? - What’s something unexpected that made you feel deeply connected to someone?
- If you could relive any conversation in your life, which one would it be?
- What’s a habit or trait you admire in others and wish you had?
- If your heart could speak right now, what do you think it would say?
- What’s something that instantly makes you feel safe?
- What’s a moment in your life that felt like a turning point?
- If you could only ask one question to truly understand someone, what would it be?
- What’s something you’ve done purely out of love for someone else?
- If you could rewrite the ending of any story—real or fictional—what would you change?
- What’s one thing you never get tired of talking about?
- If love had a recipe, what ingredients would be in yours?
- What’s a way someone has made you feel special that you’ll never forget?
- What’s something you believed about love when you were younger that changed as you grew?
4 bonus questions for two strangers fall in love!
Why not?! 🙂
- How do you want to be remembered by the people you love?
- What’s a piece of advice you’ve received that completely changed your perspective?
- What’s something you once feared that no longer scares you?
- If we could time-travel to a specific moment in your past, where would we go and why?
The 36 questions to fall in love!
I just want to share the first four questions from the 36-question questionnaire.
Here, you have a full questionnaire: http://36questionsinlove.com/
And if you’re looking for more info about the, you can find an article in the New York Times here!
✓ List of 36 questions to fall in love, 4 first questions
1. Given the choice of any person in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?
2. Would you wish to be famous? In what way?
3. Before you make a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you’re going to say? Why?
4. What is your definition of a “perfect day”?
New relationship!
Building closeness in a new relationship is all about deep conversations!!
This set of questions helps people fall for each other by uncovering things you might not say to someone right away.
Whether you’re 30 or any age, being able to live authentically and tell your partner what truly matters creates real connection! ❤️
To sum up!
The original 36 questions that lead to deeper connection have inspired countless relationships, but these fresh prompts take it even further!!
As you reflect on your answers, notice what you seem to be feeling, and don’t hesitate to open up.
If something resonates, please share what would make you feel even closer to another person.
Meaningful conversations create lasting bonds! ❤️
