The New York Times listed the “36 questions to fall in love”. So, if you want to fall in love or simply to make your love even stronger, read and answer these unusual questions…
ENGLISH DISCLOSURE: I’m from Switzerland (yes, chocolate!) so English isn’t my first language. Please forgive me for my mistakes 🙂
✓ Should I read this? You should read this if you’re looking to create a deep connection with someone. It could be for a romantic relationship, but also to grow a strong friendship. The answers to these questions will fascinate you!
✓ How is it going to help me? By asking and answering these questions, you will get to know this other person in a way you would never have expected… Also, you’re going to get to know yourself better and being more self-aware of who you are and of what you love in life and what is important to you, can definitely help you A LOT! 🙂
The 36 questions to fall in love and to make your love stronger (printable version too)
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Imagine if you had a recipe for falling in love or making someone fall in love with you?
If you’re already in a relationship, what about making your love stronger?
This is also AN AMAZING WAY to create a deep connection with a friend or a family member…
No need to look further, these 36 questions are the solution to all of this! 🙂
Let me show you how…
36 questions to fall in love
I know that the number seems pretty odd…
But 36 is the perfect number to create a deep connection with someone without getting bored! 😉
If you’re going through all the questions, you’ll see, 36 questions are already enough! 🙂
But to answer the question from a really nice reader who asked me this question… I don’t know why the number 36! 😉
If you have any other idea for a question, I can add it to the list and make it 37! 😉
Who wrote the questions to fall in love?
Mandy Len Catron created this list and it was published in The New York Times with the title “To Fall In Love With Anyone, Do This”.
She says that it worked for her! And for many people that also used it for falling in love and/or make their love stronger.
You can read more about it in this article on the New York Times Website: The 36 Questions That Lead to Love.
To whom should you ask these questions?
Actually, it’s supposed to be for falling in love! 🙂
So, probably, you should ask these questions to someone you want to create a romantic relationship with.
But you can also do this activity to make your love stronger with your current partner.
Also, I believe that you can ask these questions to a great friend of yours or a family member. It will definitely help in creating a deep connection with this person!
And last but not least, you can go through these questions by yourself and get to know yourself better!
What does it have to do with self-confidence and personal development?
All of these questions are questions that you probably never asked yourself…
And the answers will probably surprise you!
And as you know it, when you know yourself better, you are more comfortable with who you are!
And getting to know yourself better is definitely an important part of any personal development journey…
How does it work?
Basically, you can simply sit down with someone, maybe have a glass of wine and ask each other the questions.
The best is that the one who is asking the question, answers it first.
Mandy Len Catron also says that in the end: “Look into each others’ eyes for 2-4 minutes. Two minutes is just enough to be terrified. Four really go somewhere.”
When I did it, it took a bit more than an hour so… Make sure that you have a bit of time in front of you! 🙂
Also, I found out that there is even a website to guide you with these love questions! Check it out here: http://36questionsinlove.com/
The questions to make you fall in love
✓ Printable version
I created a printable version that you can find by clicking here and that looks just like this (there are only 11 questions here but there are 2 more pages):
You can definitely go ahead and save it for later on your phone, computer, Ipad or any other electronic device you may be using! 😉
✓ List of 36 questions right here right now
Here are the 36 love questions:
1. Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?
2. Would you like to be famous? In what way?
3. Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why?
4. What would constitute a “perfect” day for you?
5. When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?
6. If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want?
7. Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die?
8. Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common.
9. For what in your life do you feel most grateful?
10. If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?
11. Take four minutes and tell your partner your life story in as much detail as possible.
12. If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be?
13. If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future or anything else, what would you want to know?
14. Is there something that you’ve dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it?
15. What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?
16. What do you value most in a friendship?
17. What is your most treasured memory?
18. What is your most terrible memory?
19. If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why?
20. What does friendship mean to you?
21. What roles do love and affection play in your life?
22. Alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic of your partner. Share a total of five items.
23. How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people’s?
24. How do you feel about your relationship with your mother?
25. Make three true “we” statements each. For instance, “We are both in this room feeling … “
26. Complete this sentence: “I wish I had someone with whom I could share … “
27. If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please share what would be important for him or her to know.
28. Tell your partner what you like about them; be very honest this time, saying things that you might not say to someone you’ve just met.
29. Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life.
30. When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself?
31. Tell your partner something that you like about them already.
32. What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about?
33. If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? Why haven’t you told them yet?
34. Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item. What would it be? Why?
35. Of all the people in your family, whose death would you find most disturbing? Why?
36. Share a personal problem and ask your partner’s advice on how he or she might handle it. Also, ask your partner to reflect back to you how you seem to be feeling about the problem you have chosen.
To sum up!
Honestly, I truly believe that asking personal and intimate questions such as those can bring people closer to each other.
When you are really listening to the other, when you are very authentic and open-minded to what you’re going to find, you’re going to create a deep connection with that person.
And something essential: you’re going to get to know yourself better, which is something that will help you become the best and most confident version of yourself! 🙂
You may also be interested in…
- 7 Ways To Boost Your Self-Confidence
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- 15 Habits Of Extremely Successful People
- Self-Esteem & Self-Confidence, What’s the Difference?
Let me know what you think about it! Have you heard about these questions before?
Any other questions you would add?