The New York Times lists the “36 questions to fall in love”. So, if you want to fall in love or simply to make your love even stronger, read and answer to these powerful questions…
ENGLISH DISCLOSURE: I’m from Switzerland (yes, chocolate!) so English isn’t my first language. Please forgive me for my mistakes 🙂
✓ Should I read this? You should read this if you’re looking for an authentic and memorable exchange with someone :), this can be a person you want to build something with or simply if you’re interested in making your love with your partner even stronger.
✓ How is it going to help me? By asking and answering these questions, you will fall in love or make your love even stronger :). Also, these are very personal questions so you may get to know yourself and your partner even better!
The 36 questions to fall in love and to make your love stronger (printable version too)
Imagine if you had a recipe for falling in love or making someone fall in love with you? If you’re already in a relationship, what about making your love stronger?
Having someone that loves you or that loves you even stronger… How will this make you feel?
No need to look further, the solution’s here! In these 36 questions!
What does it have to do with personal development?
I really like this list and really wanted to share it with you! It’s already been a few months that I heard about it for the first time and I think that it is worth sharing it 🙂
These questions will help you know your partner better but also, they will help you know YOURSELF better too! And knowing ourselves is definitely part of any personal development journey…
Who wrote the questions to fall in love?
Mandy Len Catron created this list and it was published in The New York Times with the title “To Fall In Love With Anyone, Do This”.
She says that it worked for her! And for many people that also used it for falling in love and/or make their love stronger.
How does it work?
Basically, you can simply sit down with someone, maybe have a glass of wine and ask each other the questions.
The best is that the one who is asking the question, answers it first.
Mandy Len Catron also says that in the end: “Look into each others’ eyes for 2-4 minutes. Two minutes is just enough to be terrified. Four really goes somewhere.”
When I did it, it took us a bit more than an hour so… Make sure that you have a bit of time in front of you 🙂
Also, I found out that there is even a website to guide you with these love questions! Check it out here: http://36questionsinlove.com/
The questions to make you fall in love
✓ Printable version
I created a printable version that you can find by clicking here and that looks just like this (there are only 11 questions here but there are 2 more pages):
✓ List of 36 questions right here right now
Here are the 36 love questions:
1. Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?
2. Would you like to be famous? In what way?
3. Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why?
4. What would constitute a “perfect” day for you?
5. When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?
6. If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want?
7. Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die?
8. Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common.
9. For what in your life do you feel most grateful?
10. If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?
11. Take four minutes and tell your partner your life story in as much detail as possible.
12. If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be?
13. If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future or anything else, what would you want to know?
14. Is there something that you’ve dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it?
15. What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?
16. What do you value most in a friendship?
17. What is your most treasured memory?
18. What is your most terrible memory?
19. If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why?
20. What does friendship mean to you?
21. What roles do love and affection play in your life?
22. Alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic of your partner. Share a total of five items.
23. How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people’s?
24. How do you feel about your relationship with your mother?
25. Make three true “we” statements each. For instance, “We are both in this room feeling … “
26. Complete this sentence: “I wish I had someone with whom I could share … “
27. If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please share what would be important for him or her to know.
28. Tell your partner what you like about them; be very honest this time, saying things that you might not say to someone you’ve just met.
29. Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life.
30. When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself?
31. Tell your partner something that you like about them already.
32. What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about?
33. If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? Why haven’t you told them yet?
34. Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item. What would it be? Why?
35. Of all the people in your family, whose death would you find most disturbing? Why?
36. Share a personal problem and ask your partner’s advice on how he or she might handle it. Also, ask your partner to reflect back to you how you seem to be feeling about the problem you have chosen.
I’m convinced… What about you?
Honestly, I truly believe that asking personal and maybe intimate questions bring people together.
Even 2 friends people could ask each other these questions but… May they fall in love? 😉
Have you tried these questions? What do you think? Is it working 100% of the time? If not, why not?
You may also be interested in…
- 8 Questions To Get To Know Yourself Better (My Favorite Is #2…)
- Improve Your Relationships Using The Non-Violent Communication Method
- Are You Interpreting What Has Been Said? Be Genuine!
- What Are Your Needs In Life And How To Take Care Of Them
Let me know what you think about it! Have you heard about these questions before?