These 36 questions to fall in love are the perfect recipe to make anyone fall in love with you.
In this post, I’ll give you the questions themselves, I’ll answer some common questions about them, I’ll show you the best ways to use them (Spoiler – they can do much more than improving your love life) and I’ll also offer you a clean printable version 🙂
✓ Should I read this? You should read this if you’re looking to create a deep connection with someone. It could be for a romantic relationship, but also to grow a strong friendship. The answers to these questions will fascinate you!
✓ How is it going to help me? By asking and answering these questions, you will get to know this other person in a way you would never have expected… Also, you’re going to get to know yourself better and being more self-aware of who you are and of what you love in life and what is important to you, can definitely help you A LOT! 🙂
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So why 36?
I know that the number seems pretty odd…
But 36 is the perfect number to create a deep connection with someone without getting bored! 😉
If you’re going through all the questions, you’ll see, 36 questions are already enough! 🙂
But to answer the question from a really nice reader who asked me this question… I don’t know why the number 36! 😉
If you have any other idea for a question, I can add it to the list and make it 37! 😉
Who wrote the 36 questions to fall in love?
Mandy Len Catron created this list and it was published in The New York Times with the title “To Fall In Love With Anyone, Do This”.
She says that it worked for her! And for many people that also used it for falling in love and/or make their love stronger. It just works again and again.
You can read more about it in this article on the New York Times Website: The 36 Questions That Lead to Love.
To whom should you ask these 36 love questions?
Actually, it’s supposed to be for falling in love! 🙂
So, probably, you should ask these questions to someone you want to create a romantic relationship with.
But, you can also do this activity to increase intimacy and make the love stronger with your current partner.
Also, I believe that you can ask these questions to a great friend of yours or a family member. It will definitely help in creating a deep connection with this person!
And last but not least, you can go through these questions by yourself and get to know yourself better!
What does it have to do with self-confidence and personal development?
All of these questions are questions that you probably never asked yourself…
You’ll probably find the answers surprising!
And as you know it, when you know yourself better, you are more comfortable with who you are!
Getting to know yourself better is definitely an important part of any personal development journey…
How does it work?
So how make someone fall in love with you using these 36 questions?
Basically, you can simply sit down with someone, maybe have a glass of wine and ask each other the questions.
The best is that the one who is asking the question, answers it first.
Some questions are tricky to answer, some are more straight-forward.
Mandy Len Catron also says that in the end: “Look into each others’ eyes for 2-4 minutes. Two minutes is just enough to be terrified. Four really go somewhere.”
When I did it, it took a bit more than an hour so… Make sure that you have a bit of time in front of you! 🙂
Also, I found out that there is even a website to guide you with these love questions! Check it out here: http://36questionsinlove.com/
And the questions are…
✓ Printable version
I created a printable version that you can find by clicking here and that looks just like this:
You can definitely go ahead and save it for later on your phone, computer, Ipad or any other electronic device you may be using! 😉
✓ List of 36 questions to fall in love – right here right now
1. Given the choice of any person in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?
2. Would you wish to be famous? In what way?
3. Before you make a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you’re going to say? Why?
4. What is your definition for a “perfect day”?
5. When was the last time you sang to yourself? Or to someone else?
6. If you were able to live up to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or the body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which one would you want?
7. Do you have a secret hunch about how you’ll die?
8. Name three things you and your partner have in common.
9. What in your life do you feel most grateful for?
10. If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?
11. For the next four minutes, tell your partner your life story in as many details as possible.
12. If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any quality or ability, what would it be?
13. If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, your future or anything else, what would you wish to know?
14. Is there something that you’ve been dreaming of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it?
15. What do you see as the greatest accomplishment of your life?
16. What do you value most in friendships?
17. What is your most treasured memory?
18. What is your most terrible memory?
19. If you knew that a year from now you would suddenly die, would you change anything about the way you are living now? Why?
20. What does friendship mean to you?
21. What roles do love and affection play in your life?
22. Alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic of your partner. Share a total of five characteristics.
23. How close and warm is your family? Do you feel that your childhood was happier than most other people’s?
24. How do you feel about your relationship with your mother?
25. Make three true “we” statements each. For example, “We are both in this room feeling … “
26. Complete this sentence: “I wish I had someone with whom I could share … “
27. If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please share what would be important for him or her to know.
28. Tell your partner what you like about them; be very honest this time, saying things that you might not say to someone you’ve just met.
29. Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your past.
30. When was the last time you cried in front of another person? By yourself?
31. Tell your partner something that you like about them already.
32. What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about?
33. If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? Why haven’t you told them yet?
34. Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item. What would it be? Why?
35. Of all the people in your family, whose death would you find most disturbing? Why?
36. Share a personal problem and ask your partner’s advice on how he or she might handle it. Also, ask your partner to reflect back to you how you seem to be feeling about the problem you have chosen.
To sum up!
Honestly, I truly believe that asking personal and intimate questions such as those can bring people closer to each other.
When you are really listening to the other, when you are very authentic and open-minded to what you’re going to find, you’re going to create a deep connection with that person.
And something essential: you’re going to get to know yourself better, which is something that will help you become the best and most confident version of yourself! 🙂
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Let me know what you think about it! Have you heard about these 36 questions to fall in love before?
Any other questions you would add?