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Do you love giving advice?
Knowing what’s best for others and hoping that they’re going to apply everything you preach?
Let’s see if you’re doing the best way you think you could…
It’s always coming from a good place…
Our friends, members of family, and colleagues, we really want to help!
We want to be useful and help them feel better!
So, we make comments, give advice and share unsolicited opinions…
I see it a lot with my clients in the area of health and physical fitness (such as thinking that we should encourage others to move their bodies and stop eating out all the time!).
I see it also in the area of work and career: People give advice on what job to choose, how to stand up for themselves, how to ask for a raise…
Or of course, I see it very often with general choices in life!
People love sharing their opinion on how kids should be raised, where the family should live…
You get the idea!
We have tons of opinions on how the world should be and we try to influence what we can which is most of the time the people around us.
Again, it’s always coming from a good place!
And I think that the thought behind is so good that we should embrace that part of us that want to control the world and others!
But we can do it in a better way… With a bigger impact without a doubt…
Ready for this?
Start with YOURSELF!
Isn’t interesting that we absolutely know what is best for other people but it’s harder to know what’s best for US?
So, here is what I mean by the sentence “Talk the Talk, Walk the Walk!”.
Everything you think the world and other people should do, you do it first!
You start by looking at what YOU are doing first, you do it first, and then, without having to tell them anything, only by the way you’re behaving and acting in the world, you’ll make the difference you’re so hard trying to do with giving advice and telling people what they should do…
How do you do that?!
How do I show up actually?
Don’t take the time to think about what happened to you or to your life, don’t look at who you’ve been and what you’ve done.
It’s irrelevant right now which is great news! 🙂
You can choose to do and be whoever you want to be!
So, ask yourself and choose intentionally…
- How do you want to show up as a friend? In other words, what kind of friend do you want to be?
- How do you want to show up as a parent/son/daughter?
- How do you want to behave as a partner/girlfriend/boyfriend…?
- How do you want to show up as an employee/boss/entrepreneur?
We can always make a new decision, we are never our behaviors, we can choose to behave any way we want.
An example…
You know I love great examples!
They make it so much easier and funnier…
Let’s imagine that you are giving a lot of advice and asking this friend all the time about their career.
You know they are amazing at making pizza and you truly believe that it’s what they are meant to do!
As much as you see the success this friend can create (and you know you’ll get to eat amazing pizza often), put this friend on the side.
How do you feel about your job? About your career?
Do you think that someone knows what’s better for you in that area?
If you ask for advice, you’ll probably happily receive it! But imagine you do not ask for advice. What do you think about someone sharing their thoughts about what you should be doing with your career?
Is it how you want to behave as a friend?
I’m not saying you shouldn’t! But just make a conscious choice on how you want to behave and always love your reasons.
If it’s because you think this friend is so talented, check in with them if they want you to discuss this with them?
If it’s because you want to eat more pizza (eventually for free!), check in with you if it’s a good reason to talk about building a business or changing career for this?
Be the example, be the inspiration!
Take one minute now to think about the last time you gave advice or commented on what someone did.
Or think of something that you think someone around you should do differently.
We can all think of something!
I would say that my partner should eat a bit healthier, go to bed earlier, and drink less coffee…
I can see also that the more I’m sharing these opinions with him, the less he wants to do something about it…! Interesting, right?
And then, I think about the times that I don’t eat healthily, I don’t go to bed as early as I would want, and… Without beating myself up, I realize that I can already do something about myself and my life first…!
And then, by eating better, and sleeping better, I can give the example and inspire him and other people to do so!!
And let’s take a second to remind ourselves that most of the time when people make some changes or make a decision, it’s coming from within… Without us saying anything special (even if it’s possible we influence them) but most of the time, they “felt” it just like we did…! Right? 🙂
And of course, here, let’s take a second to realize how annoying it is when people are telling us what we should do… Is it really that useful if it’s unsolicited…?!
Your GOLDEN Ticket!
You now see how much our THOUGHTS create our reality.
No matter the situation, the emotions you’re having, the actions you’re going to take are DIRECTLY related to what you are thinking.
So, if you have a problem in your life, it’s actually a thought problem.
So… Discover how coaching can definitely change anything that you want to be different in your life.
Let me show you the POWER of coaching. Let’s have some fun too! It does not have to be too serious or too complicated to be life-changing!
Let me show you how to do that! 🙂
Grab your GOLDEN Ticket right now!
To sum up!
As you can see, talk the talk and walk the walk is all about becoming the person you invite everyone else to be…!
Focus on yourself and on your life first before trying to change the world and other people!
The impact will be huuuuge!! You can really inspire and make a change from this place!
And it’s less hard, you have fewer people to start with but yourself! 🙂
