Part I: They Also Have Thoughts…
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Part II: Other People And Their Feelings
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This is going to be fun…
You already know that your thoughts create your reality.
Let’s get a bit deeper and see how you can use it with others too!
You’re going to love this!!
Quick reminder!
You know that your thoughts create your feelings.
Those feelings are making do (or not do!) certain things.
When you’re doing this (or not doing this!), you’re creating a certain result in your life. (Or for the more advanced, you keep on creating this result over and over…!).
For example:
Someone brings you a chocolate cookie they made themselves.
So, the circumstance is the cookie. You then have a few thoughts including this one: I cannot refuse, it wouldn’t be polite.
When you think this, let’s say that you feel obligated.
Your action following this feeling is to eat the cookie.
The result, the easy one to see is that you’re indeed not refusing and you’re not saying no and eating something you maybe did not want to eat.
Looking at this small situation is just to bring you awareness and to remind yourself how much power we have over our life!
If our thoughts create our results, then we realize that we can actually create any result that we want if we… Think something different!!
This is soooo amazing and sooo important!!
During conflicts, disagreements, fights…
You’re a human being with a human brain!
If your thoughts create your results, today, I want you to consider how much this is also true for other people.
Their thoughts create their results too!
So, of course, we want to behave a certain way and not punch someone in the face (preferably!) but… You then realize that they have the final word!
You are a circumstance in their life and they can choose what to think about it.
This explains why sometimes someone reacts differently to what we thought they would to something we said or have done…!
You know what I mean? Sometimes, you’re wondering why they react so violently to something you’ve said and sometimes, you wonder what people will think when they actually maybe did not think anything in particular…!
There is some relief in discovering this: You can always try your best, and choose who you want to be in a situation, but keep in mind that what someone thinks, in the end, isn’t really in your hands!
It really goes with the chart that I absolutely love (and not only because I really like cheese):
So, no matter what situations you’re finding yourself, when you’re with someone, you can always have so much compassion for them!
What they are feeling comes always from what they are thinking.
So, if they are feeling very upset, you can understand that they just have a thought that makes them upset, that it’s not really against you and most of the time, if they aren’t listening to this amazing podcast just like you are, they don’t even KNOW that their feelings are created straight from their brain!!
They truly think that they are just a victim! That they are not responsible!
But there’s nothing more empowering than realizing than YOU generate your emotions and so, you can choose to generate any emotion that you would like…!
So, here, today, I want you to have compassion for other people.
And to always consider the fact that they are creating their reality!
And as much as you have good reasons to think what you are thinking, I want you to give them compassion because as crazy as it looks sometimes, they DO have good reasons (in their minds) to think what they are thinking, to feel what they are feeling and then, to act like this!
So, just like you, people have their own stories in their head.
Be compassionate that we all do what we think is the best, we all have thoughts and most of us aren’t even aware of them…! That we can believe them or not believe them!!
During conflicts, disagreements, fights…
When you find yourself in these specific situations, try to understand more than ever what’s going through their head, you ask yourself…
- I wonder what they are thinking that makes them react like this!
- I wonder what they might be feeling at this second!
- I wonder what they are believing that makes them say this…
Be much more compassionate than you ever have been!
Try to put yourself in their shoes really and almost analyze what can be happening in her head…
Other People And Their Feelings
We talked about how much other people have thoughts and when you really think about it, you then have some compassion for them!
Because you understand that they’re also struggling with believing what they’re thinking and very often, they don’t even know about this…!
So, considering the fact that people have thoughts and they don’t necessarily even know about these thoughts, consider the following too: People have emotions too.
Why does it matter to you?
You know that our emotions come from our thoughts, so people have emotions and it’s not as bad as you think! They will pass too!
Sometimes, we want to change the way people are feeling and we try so hard to cheer them up.
Someone is sad so it’s nice to be there for them, but it doesn’t have to get to a place when the person feels better!
It always goes with this idea of “it’s okay to feel bad” and that is for you and for other people: What if we would accept that we experience negative/uncomfortable emotions from time to time and that it’s okay?
Then, we wouldn’t try to “fix” other people or to “fix ourselves” all the time.
So, remember that people have thoughts and that’s okay, it’s kind of relieving to think this!
It’s not so much in your control and there’s something good about this!
And people have emotions.
It’s totally okay, it always has been and always will, they won’t last!
And they don’t have to appear to be so horrible. We can avoid adding this layer of “things should be different, they need to feel better”!
Interesting, right? 😊
Your GOLDEN Ticket!
You now see how much our THOUGHTS create our reality.
No matter the situation, the emotions you’re having, the actions you’re going to take are DIRECTLY related to what you are thinking.
So, if you have a problem in your life, it’s actually a thought problem.
So… Discover how coaching can definitely change anything that you want to be different in your life.
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To sum up!
As you can see, the fact that our thoughts create our reality isn’t only applicable to you!
You’re not the special unicorn that is struggling in this world!
Today, consider other people. Have compassion for them.
They also have 60’000 thoughts per day and they aren’t probably aware of the fact that they are not necessarily true!
It will improve every relationship that you have!
Try it on! 😉
