Part I: When You Don’t Have The Results… Yet
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Part II: Believing Without Proof… Yet
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Let’s talk about something we all need to deal with!
When you’re working on something, some goal, some result you want to get.
And you keep on taking action but still, you don’t see the results.
Let me show you what to do!
Imagine a pyramid!
No matter what you’re trying to do (getting more in shape, eating healthier, learning a language, going out on dates…), it won’t be a straight and pleasant line.
There are going to be ups and downs and you will want to give up!
Because you feel like no matter what action you’re taking, it’s just not taking you to the result you want, you don’t see your efforts being worth it!
This is why you need to look at it as a pyramid: Every action taken is a stone that you put.
And you can imagine how many stones you need to have a complete pyramid!
The melting ice cube theory!
Imagine an ice cube.
It stays hard as a rock for many degrees.
If you put it around something hot, at some point, if we agree that this is pure physic, the ice cube will start melting, and to some degree, it will become completely liquid.
But there is really a long time and a lot of amount of degrees where nothing will happen.
The ice cube will still be as hard as a stone and nothing will move, even if it gets warmer around it.
This is happening when you eat healthier for a few days and feel like you don’t see/feel better.
You need to continue to heat that ice cube up!
After heating it up for many degrees (and many days or many actions), it’s finally going to melt! 🙂
And this is pure physic so nothing will be different for you and your efforts, they will be worth it.
It’s not our fault!
Actually, it’s not really our fault!
Our brain likes things to be easy so we are looking for relaxation and quiet.
Our brain isn’t really used to challenge, it may consider it as a lot of effort and a lot of challenge!
You can see that when you’re out of your comfort zone, it’s just uncomfortable right?
So, don’t beat yourself up for not having the patience to see results.
Your efforts are definitely worth it! 🙂
You’ve got to keep on believing!
Usually, we hear: “I’ll only believe it when I’ll see it!”
But actually, this is what’s different this time.
You’ve got to believe it BEFORE you can see it!
Everything that is around you was once imagined.
Then, it was created, after many many efforts!
So, you’ve got to believe in that enormous pyramid. Every stone counts. Every habit counts.
And don’t give up too early! 🙂
Challenge that brain of yours!
Believing Without Proof… Yet
I like how Jen Sincero says that “The moment you have the audacity to start believing in the not-yet seen, your reality will begin to shift.”
What does she mean by that?
As I say in the first part of this post, we are used to believing something only the moment we have seen it!
It can be a new job, a wedding, having a baby, we believe it will happen only the moment we have it!
And we let ourselves feel the feelings of “accomplishing” these things only when we get them.
What she’s saying here and what I believe too is that there are absolutely no downsides to believing ahead of time.
It doesn’t sound like what we’ve been doing until now but what if something else is true?
Do not focus on the “how”!
I know that it sounds really hard to believe that you can have something before actually having it.
Jen says that “Everything you desire is right here, right now. You just have to shift your perception in order to see it made manifest”.
She’s adding: “When you take the leap and believe in the not-yet seen, you aren’t supposed to know how to make it happen, because if you knew how, you probably would have done it already. This is about radically changing your reality, so the way to go about it is also most likely outside of your present awareness.”
Basically, at that point, you have to already THINK and FEEL like the person who have got that “thing” that you want, that life that you want to live.
The crazy part is by really behaving like that person, you’re going to move towards her!
Behave just like that future self!
Let’s take the example of feeling good in your body.
If your aim is to feel good in your body, to eat intuitively, ask yourself:
- What would you think if you would be that healthy version of yourself?
- What would you believe? For example: “I’m eating until I feel full.”
- What would you feel on a daily basis?
- How would you behave? What actions would you take?
And already behave this way!
Slowly slowly, considering this example, you’re going to become that person that is healthy and that is making daily choices towards that version of yourself.
It’s not about ALWAYS making the “right” choice or knowing what to do, it’s about leaning TOWARDS that version of yourself.
Can you see it?
So, right now, close your eyes and think of something that you really want in your life.
It can be anything!
Imagine that you have it.
How does that feel? What person are you? What are you believing? How does your life look like?
And… Act as if starting TODAY!
Make the decisions that this future version of yourself is making and… You’re on your way there!!
And again, there are absolutely no downsides to doing that, right?
What’s the worst-case scenario? Dreaming? Creating the reality you really want? 🙂
To sum up!
As you can see, we tend to give up when we don’t see our results being worth it, when we don’t see the whole pyramid.
The stones seem so heavy to carry and to place, but you can do it!
Think of the melting ice cube theory.
You can do this! One stone after one stone, one degree after another degree, you can melt that ice cube and get the result that you want!
The uncomfortable feelings are definitely worth it! 🙂
I’ve been there, I’m still there, I get you! I believe in you! 🙂
