Wondering how you can start believing in yourself again?
Discover these 5 tips to show you that you are totally worthy!
PART I: How to Build Your Self-Worth
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PART II: You’re Worthy Without Doing Anything
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You’re just like a newborn!
When a baby comes into the world, he has so much value in people’s eyes, right?
And when you think about it, he didn’t do anything yet!?
This is why you have to understand that you’re already 100% worthy right here right now!
And just like a newborn, you don’t have to do anything to be worthy, you just are.
I also like the joke/saying that says that you were the best spermatozoid of your whole band!
Keep in mind, always, that you enter this world as a winner! 🙂
How do you define self-worth?
In my opinion, you’ve undoubtedly heard of the many “self-words”.
There is self-esteem, self-confidence, self-compassion, self-acceptance, self-respect, self-love, and so on.
Right?
Well, there are so many words to describe how we feel about ourselves, how we think about ourselves, and how we act toward ourselves. It’s clear if they all start to blend they are indeed different concepts with unique meanings, findings, and purposes.
Read on to find out about the one that is most important of all: self-worth.
“Self-worth is a feeling that you are a good person who deserves to be treated with respect.”
THAT IS GREAT!
It’s a state that is somewhat unchanging because it’s a direct measure of how you value yourself in spite of what others may say.
It’s something that doesn’t quickly change when external conditions change. It holds the power to transform your life for the better.
What determines someone’s worth?
Such a good question…
Actually, as I said it before, it’s crazy to think that it’s the things that we do that describe our self-worth! Because it’s really not! 🙂
Again, if you see a little cute baby (maybe after a few days, they get prettier!), you will also look at him and think that he has a lot of value!
What’s funny is that he didn’t do anything with his life yet! 🙂
So, we may think that someone’s worth is determined by:
- The way they look
- How much they have (money, material things…)
- What they’re doing in life
- Who they know
- What they achieve in their life
- What dreams they have
- … Any other idea you may have!?
But it’s not!
Also, the problem with determining your self-worth based on these things is that it may very fluctuate during your whole life! You won’t earn always the same amount of money or be in touch with the same people!!
This is the main reason why you need to understand that YOU are building your self-worth and that it doesn’t include things you do but things you ARE!
And how do you do that? By knowing yourself better in the first place!
By understanding who you are, what is important to you, for what values you would fight for, and that just with your own personality, YOU ARE GOOD ENOUGH!
How can I increase my self-worth by using the 5 tips?
It’s important to have a high level of self-worth, but the question remains, how do we go about increasing our self-worth?
How do we create enough self-worth to empower our daily decisions in a way that will help us achieve our desired outcomes?
For answering what’s in your mind, I want to share five tips for increasing your self-worth!
Well, this isn’t something that you can do just once and then forget it. It’s something that you must consistently work on.
Building a high level of self-worth will also take time. That’s the only way you will build anything of real value.
Let’s now jump into the five-step by step tips to help you build your self-worth. These tips should put you on the right path:
1. Self-understanding, get to know yourself better
Your first tip involves getting to know yourself at a deeper level.
Imagine for a moment ….!
Everything you had was suddenly taken away including your properties, career, money, relationships, friendships, accomplishments, and anything else that is physical.
It’s painful I know!!
Ask yourself:
- What if everything I have was suddenly taken away from me?
- What if all I had left was just myself?
- How would that make me feel?
- What would I have that would be of value?
It is an interesting scenario, no? I mean, to understand yourself better!
Well, it’s a scenario that you probably never really take the time to imagine.
It’s thought-provoking because how you feel about yourself after everything is taken away from you is the measure of your self-worth.
If you have a high level of self-worth, then taking everything away from you won’t change who you are as a person.
Furthermore, it would not jiggle your self-confidence because you don’t measure your value upon external conditions. Instead, your value comes from within.
So let’s now dig even deeper into your true value by posing another set of questions that will help unlock how you see yourself with no masks or inhibitions.
Try it! Ask yourself:
- Who am I? I am… I am not…
- How am I in the world?
- How do others see me?
- How do others speak about me?
- What brings me the most joy?
- What key life moments define who I am?
These are the things that help you reveal the value you bring to the world.
This process involves being genuinely real with your true self.
And as I always say, knowing yourself better will help you in feeling more comfortable with yourself! Because we are more comfortable with what we know!
2. Self-Acceptance
Now, you have a pretty clear picture of your self-worth. You realize how you see yourself within the world around you.
It’s GREAT! 🙂
There will be good things, neutral things, and things that you might not be too proud to admit.
However, to build self-worth, we must be true to ourselves.
It requires recognizing your true nature as well as the good, the bad, and the ugly. You need to accept yourself, who you are, 100%.
Yes, you’re not perfect. Yes, you have flaws, you’ve made mistakes and failed miserably time and again. However, this is you. This is the true you. It’s who you are.
Forgive yourself for everything you’ve done in the past and accept yourself without judgment. This is you.
This is who you are. Accept that by confessing that…
I admit the good, the bad, and the ugly.
I accept every part of myself as well as my flaws, fears, behaviors, and qualities.
This is how I am, and I am at peace with that. Even if it’s not always easy to do so, let’s face it! 🙂
3. Self-Love
You have accepted yourself.
Now it’s time to recognize your true value. So, begin to practice a little self-love. Self-love means treating yourself with kindness, tolerance, generosity, and sympathy.
You must be thinking about your flaws?
Yes, you have flaws. You have many limitations and weaknesses. That’s part of being human. It’s time to let all that go and instead practice being sympathetic with yourself.
Sympathy comes through self-love which comes from self-acceptance, which stems from self-understanding.
One straightforward method to begin practicing self-love is to get into the habit of speaking to yourself positively:
- I feel valued and exceptional.
- I love myself enthusiastically.
- I am a worthy and skilled person.
Talking to yourself in this way brings your focus to the beauty hidden within you. You’re no longer looking at external conditions or people for acknowledgment.
You’re as a substitute searching for that endorsement within yourself.
It’s one of the biggest tips you can take toward creating your self-worth.
If you’re interested in self-care, check this list of self-care activities for a 30-day self-care challenge! 🙂
4. You don’t need people’s approval to feel worth it!
When you have self-understanding.
When you have entirely accepted yourself. When you reach a point where you practice self-love and self-compassion, that’s when people, events, and environments no longer define you.
Here you begin to define yourself.
It’s helpful to openly recognize that you no longer need to please other people.
People have their own opinions, and they have their own life.
You also have your own life experiences and your own views.
No matter what people do or say you alone control your attitude. You hold the power to respond to conditions of your life based on your internal resources which are a reflection of your true value.
You are WORTHY!
It’s essential to recognize your true value irrespective of your earnings, career, properties, social rank, relationship status, etc.
These material things no longer measure your true worth. It comes from an internal measure that you’ve set for yourself.
5. Take responsibility
The final tip involves taking full responsibility for your life, for everything that happens to you without giving away your power.
Then a question arises, how would you take responsibility?
The answer is to take responsibility means to acknowledge that you have the personal power to change and influence the events and circumstances of your life.
Self-confidence is the trust in oneself and abilities. It shows an internal state of what we think and feels about ourselves.
This state is unstable according to the situation we are currently in and our responses to events going on around us.
So, start today, and you’ll do great!
I’m sure! 🙂
You don’t have to do anything to be worthy…
Here, I wanted to remind you of something essential: You don’t have to do anything to be worthy.
You are worthy right here right now.
Sometimes, we might value our self-worth by the work we’re doing, by the things we are achieving…
I receive e-mails from people all the time that measure their productivity to their self-worth.
They think that if they weren’t productive on that day or didn’t succeed in reaching that goal, that they are not worthy.
But what if being worthy is just something that you are and you don’t have to do or to prove anything to have self-worth?
So, if you find yourself measuring the value of a day from the level of productivity and work done and then deciding if yes or not you’re valuable and worthy, pay attention! 🙂
That’s just a thought you’re having and as I always say, it’s not because you’re thinking something that it means that it’s necessarily true!
Do the work you want to do, take that action, but don’t use this for proof or not that you’re worthy!
You really are! Trust me on this! 😉
How to help the people around you to feel worthy?
There are things you can do to help someone’s worth and guarantee that they value themselves as a full, complete, and pleasing human being that is deserving of love and respect, no matter what.
1. Determining self-worth in teenagers and kids
If you know any teenagers, be sure to encourage them in understanding and accepting their self-worth. Reinforce their value as a “being” rather than a “doing”. Make sure they know that they are valuable for who they are, not what they do!!
If you need more ideas on determining a teenager’s or a kid’s self-worth, check out the suggestions below:
- Provide love, respect, and positive regard
Showing love, respect, and positive regard to this young person is the best way to teach him self-worth. If you show a teenager that you love and appreciate him for exactly who and what he is, he will learn that it’s okay to love himself for exactly who and what he is.
Amazing no?
Prove that he doesn’t need to achieve anything to earn your love, respect, and positive regard.
- Give teenagers and kids opportunities to experience success
Experiences of success help us to gain a healthy sense of self-worth. Successful experiences boost a sense of competence and make us feel good about ourselves. They also open the door to taking smart risks.
Don’t just tell a teen that he is worthy and valuable. Help him to believe in himself by giving her every opportunity to succeed. Just be sure that these opportunities are for him to succeed on his own.
2. Determining self-worth in adults
It’s a bit complicated to determine self-worth in adults, but it’s certainly not a lost cause!
Check out the two tips below:
Tip 1: First, take a look back at the list of what does not determine self-worth. Remind yourself that your bank account, job title, and several followers have nothing to do with how valuable or worthy of a person you are.
It can be so easy to get trapped into money, status, and popularity especially when those around us so highly value these things.
Make an effort to take a step back and think about what truly matters when determining a person’s worth.
It will be their kindness, sympathy, respect for others, and how well they treat those around them!
Tip 2: Second, work on identifying, challenging, and externalizing your critical inner voice. We all have an inner critic that loves to complain and point out our flaws.
Whenever you notice your inner critic start to fire up with the criticisms, make it pause for a moment.
Ask yourself whether it has any basis, whether it’s being kind or not, and whether what it’s telling you is something you need to know.
If none of those things is true, kick it out!
Challenge it on the things it whispers in your ear that no matter what you do or don’t do, you are valuable all the same.
So, all this is wonderful, right? So fascinating, I love that!! 🙂
To sum up!
To summarize, building your self-worth is necessary to achieve real success in your life.
Forget what society tells you about what it means to have succeeded, and endeavor to create your definition of success based on human qualities and virtues that you value most.
Value yourself, your ability, and your role in the world because you are unique.
You cannot value and respect others except you first value and respect yourself. So, create your self-worth first! 🙂
Try your best. If you answered yes to any of these questions, then I’m confident you will gain tremendous self-worth in your life. 🙂
