As I always say, self-confidence is a skill to develop.
Nobody was born with it! Starting today, become the most self-confident person that you know!
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Boosting your self-confidence: an adventure
Looking to feel more self-confident in many situations in your life?
I get you, I’ve been there! Let me show you what has worked for me.
Being more self-confident will help you be proactive in your life. You’ll have total control of your life and will be able to decide what makes you happy and what doesn’t.
Obviously, you will focus on what does make you happy and you will be able to create more of these situations.
Sometimes, you may feel like you’re not having control of your life, let me assure you, the moment you are more self-confident, you won’t feel this way anymore! 🙂
Self-confidence is a skill
No one was born being super self-confident.
We didn’t learn it too much at school either!
This is why if you’re reading these lines, you can already be proud of yourself: you’re taking care of yourself and of your life.
You are being self-aware and you want to become the best version of yourself.
I get you, I was there too! 🙂
Life doesn’t happen to you but for you.
I love this sentence! That’s true! You are not a victim of what’s happening to you: you are the master of your life 🙂
So, you can work on being more self-confident! It’s definitely a skill to develop and the more you’ll work on it and learn about it, the more you’ll become the most self-confident person that you know!! 🙂
Why every day?
As I just said it, self-confidence is a skill to develop.
It’s like any skill that you want to learn/develop: the more you practice it, the better you’ll be at it!
So if you practice it on a daily basis, you’ll become amazing at it over time! 🙂
If you take action only once in a while, every now and then, you may progress and become more self-confident, but not as fast as if you take action towards it every day!
What do you need help with?
(Choose between the 2 options)
7 ways to boost your self-confidence
Here are 7 ways to boost your self-confidence starting today, it totally works for me so let’s dive into it and see how it goes for you too! 🙂
1. Compare yourself to people that are inspiring you to be the best version of yourself
It’s VERY tempting to compare ourselves to others. And it’s totally legitimate!
When you think about it, we are all human beings, earning money to live and we like a good laugh and a good meal with the people we love.
So, it makes total sense to compare ourselves to others!
But try to compare yourself only to people that will make you feel good about yourself, that will inspire you to be better than yesterday!
I love that quote that says “You should only compare yourself to the person that you were yesterday”. That’s true!!
When it comes to comparing, trust me, I used to compare myself to others A LOT and I was suffering from it A LOT too…
I felt a lot of pressure, I was quite aggressive and I felt judged all the time…
Who are those persons?
Those persons are people that love you the way you are!
They are the ones that believe in you and in what you do.
They can be in your close circle (friends, family…) and they can also be someone that isn’t close to you, it doesn’t matter as long as it makes you feel good thinking that you want to look like them.
These persons are people that inspire you.
What they did, what they say, you like them and you are learning from them.
2. Get 2-3 self-confidence heroes
Sometimes, it’s hard for us to imagine ourselves super-confident because we never felt this way and we can’t paint this picture in our head.
You probably have in your surrounding or know someone that you see as very self-confident.
Try to imagine how she will handle situations that you are handling in your day-to-day life.
When you see this person, try to observe her and see the way she talks, the way she breaths, the look in her eyes and the energy she’s bringing.
The idea is not to change who you are and to become someone else. But to acquire a specific ability that you want to have which is self-confidence.
After observing this person, try to imitate her in a few situations, preferably when she’s not in the room! 😉
In the future, when you will already feel more self-confident, you will, of course, add your own style and personality into the situation. But for the start, using a role model can be very useful! 🙂
I remember using this method quite a few times back then and it really made me feel good, because I “just” had to copy paste a certain behavior! 😉
3. Listen to your positive inner voice and take that action!
We all have this little inner voice that is trying to prevent us from taking action.
Do not listen to this one, I repeat, do not listen to this voice! But rather, listen to the one that is telling you that no matter what, you will be okay! That you can do this! You are capable of taking action and no matter the result, taking action is always going to take you somewhere or tell you something!
I wrote a post about how taking action is helping you grow your self-confidence. Have a look!
4. Talk to yourself like you would talk to someone that you love!
Sometimes, we can be very hard with ourselves. We can be even mean!
Think about it. Would you talk to your friend the way you’re talking to yourself?
It’s not easy to change this from day one, but already being aware of it is very important and you’ll be surprised how you may treat yourself day after day in a better way than you used to 🙂
5. Take care of yourself
Eat well, sleep well, dress in clothes that you feel comfortable in, you need to feel good inside of your body to grow your self-confident.
You will need to be in great shape to achieve all of your goals and dreams! 🙂
Put the chances on your side by taking care of yourself on as many aspects as you can!
By the way, do not overthink it… 🙂
Sometimes, when you think of all the things that you could do, you may feel overwhelmed and then guilty for not doing everything that you can do for your health.
Do not think like that! 🙂
Try to go for a walk, to eat healthier and to sleep better. 🙂
But do not feel guilty for not being able to work on all of the aspects of a healthy lifestyle! 🙂
It’s already great to be aware of it and to start doing something about it!
6. Create boundaries for yourself
This can be hard, but you can do it!
We never learned how to do it… But you need to take control of your life, nobody will do it for you and you will be the one suffering from a lack of boundaries. 🙂
Be 100% authentic with yourself and with the people that you love: don’t they deserve the best of you? They love the real you, so give it to them 🙂 if you’re spending time with them, be 100% with them. Listen to them 🙂
So keep in mind to always say yes only when you really mean it.
Learn how to say no.
When you say “no” to something/someone, you’re saying “yes” to something/someone else. What is it that you really want to say “yes” to? When you know what it is, you can use it to explain why you don’t want to do it.
For example, I always felt bad about saying “no” to go out dancing at night with my friends. The moment that I realized that when I’m saying “no” to go out was because I wanted to go to bed not too late so I feel good on Sundays, I felt better about it! I had a good reason!
And it’s true what they say: the more you love your decisions, the less you need others to love them. I love that!!
Again, it’s not going to be easy to say “no” from day 1, but I can assure you that it’s the best thing that you can do for yourself and for the people around you that deserve the best YOU 🙂
The more you love your decisions, the less you need others to love them.
7. You are good enough, “why you?” Ask yourself instead… “Why not you?”
Sometimes, we are impressed with other people.
What they say, what they do, it can be very impressing and you can start comparing yourself to them!
I realized something recently.
These people, they are not better than you! Not at all! 🙂
They just had the courage to take action and to believe in themselves. 🙂
Which isn’t something easy to do, don’t get me wrong, I was there so I totally get you!
But what about the fact that nobody on this planet is better than anyone else!
So, next time you receive a compliment or when you start a new job and may feel like an impostor, instead of asking yourself “why me?” ask yourself: why not me?
You are totally worth it! 🙂
I like to say that we are our own limits. So… Are you bigger and stronger than your imaginary limits? 😉
Who has the power? 🙂
Okay, so now that you have these 7 ways of boosting your self-confidence on a daily basis, you just need to practice every day a bit to see long-term results! 🙂
So, write down/screenshot these 7 ways and keep them next to you so you can remind yourself from time to time to work on this great skill that will help you achieve anything that you want in your life! 🙂
The consequences of having self-confidence
When you are self-confident, you truly believe in yourself and in everything you do.
You take action of your life and you have control over it. Life isn’t happening to you but for you.
It helps us feel good around anyone (because we don’t take things personally and we feel peaceful and quiet being who we truly are) and it helps us take action towards things and goals that make us happy! 🙂
Isn’t a skill worth developing?!
To sum up!
Going through these 7 ways every day of your life will help you develop your self-confidence.
It’s not easy, but it’s simple 🙂 which means that the more you will practice it, the more you will be good at it!!
It’s simple said like this, but it won’t always be easy to do and to remind yourself! But you can do it, I’m sure 🙂