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This topic goes hand in hand with the idea of wanting others to take care of us!
Let me show you how you can first do it for yourself and the benefits of doing that!
Let’s not wait more time!! Let’s do this!! 🙂
What You Will Learn...
Being seen, heard, and understood
There is nothing that we all human beings want: To be seen, heard, and understood.
Why is that?
Because we want to be a part of the tribe!! We want to be accepted and loved no matter what!
We don’t want to be rejected by others!!
So, always keep in mind this truth, no matter what, people want to be seen, heard, and understood.
I think that thinking about this can solve so many problems!
Because sometimes we take things personally, we get offended when deep down, it’s never about us!
It’s always coming from a place where this person wants to be seen, heard, and understood!
Think about how that can be true for every situation in our life?
The opposite is also very true!! What is the opposite of it? Indifference I thought!
This is the worst, no being seen, not being heard, not being understood!
We want others to do it… Start doing it YOURSELF!
We want more attention from other people.
We want them to see us, to care about us, to love us, to take care of us… All of our life!
Babies soooo much and what about old people?! I can see it so true with my grandmother!
She truly just wants to be taken care of!
So… It’s really nice to want other people to take care of us, it makes us feel so good to be taken care of!!
But I have an idea…
What if we would do the first steps and if people help, amazing!
But what if we would really take care of OURSELVES first and less wait for others to do it?
How would that benefit the relationship we have with ourselves and the one we have with other people?
Just imagine for a second?
Let’s get real examples, it will be easier!!
What does that look like for you?
Here I want you to take a second and think of what that looks like for you, to be seen heard and understood?
When do you know that you’re being seen? In what situations of your life?
I would say, seen and heard are for me, when I’m talking and I feel truly listened by the other person, by the people present.
And then, how do you know you’re being understood? What would need to happen for you to feel like you’re understood?
For this, I would say, I actually like when people are telling me “I understand what you’re saying” or “I get what you are saying”, which actually, makes it very dependent on what people are thinking…!
And when you think about it, the examples that I shared now are really about what OTHERS are doing so I can feel seen, heard, and understood.
Now take a second and think about it: What can you do YOURSELF FOR YOURSELF to feel seen, heard, and understood?
I had to think about this honestly! And ask myself: How can I see myself more?
This looks like for me to see what I need right now. A break? A moment of resting on my bed? A bit of time to write a message to a friend?
It’s soooo essential to ask yourself how do you SEE yourself!!
And then, how do I hear myself? I asked myself: What do I want to hear actually?
I thought of things such as “You’re doing your best and it’s amazing” or “you don’t have to be perfect to be loved” or “No matter what you want to achieve, you’ll get there for sure!!!”
And then the last part, the “understand part”, I think it’s the one that touches me the most.
In what, do I want to understand myself better?
And this was easy: I want to be understand for the choices that I make and not making them mean anything about myself!
I’m not doing anything wrong for not wanting kids, for not having the same life as anybody else!
How can I bring myself this understanding? By telling myself: “I understand! It’s totally okay! It makes sense this is what I want!”
This is so interesting right? 🙂
Borrow them from me!!
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Your GOLDEN Ticket!
You now see how much our THOUGHTS create our reality.
No matter the situation, the emotions you’re having, the actions you’re going to take are DIRECTLY related to what you are thinking.
So, if you have a problem in your life, it’s actually a thought problem.
So… Discover how coaching can definitely change anything that you want to be different in your life.
Let me show you the POWER of coaching. Let’s have some fun too! It does not have to be too serious or too complicated to be life-changing!
Let me show you how to do that! 🙂