What are really the things to talk about with guys?
How to be successful at dating?
Let me show you how!
Things to talk about with guys
Honestly, it’s not as complicated as you may think it is!
Let’s get to the big lines of it:
1. Fun stuff!
All the guys that I asked are agreeing on this: They want to have fun!
Going on dates, meeting new people, they would enjoy way more all of the process if they could have FUN!
So, talk about fun stuff such as:
- What humor do they like!
- What jokes they know/prefer!
- What funny movies they like!
- What fun TV shows they like!
2. Interesting stuff!
Of course, they also like to talk about interesting stuff such as:
- Not only funny but every kind of movie, TV show…
- Concerts/kind of music that exists
- Families, childhood memories…
- Biggest dreams & hopes!
What do you need help with?
(Choose between the 2 options)
3. Don’t overthink it, make it complicated!
Sometimes, you may think sooo much about what to say, how to say it, if you’re saying the right thing!
But, don’t overthink it!
Just imagine you’re going out with friends/a friend, you wouldn’t overthink how things will go, what you guys can talk about, right?
So, don’t overthink what to talk about with guys, just use the ideas I shared above and go with the flow!
4. Listen genuinely to what they are sharing!
Honestly, when it comes to things to talk about with guys, sometimes, you can find yourself thinking a lot about WHAT to talk about when the easiest is just to listen to the other person!
As I always say, down the line, all that we want, everybody, is to be heard, seen, and understood.
And it’s quite easy for you to do! You don’t even have to do anything!
Just be there when they’re talking, look into their eyes, and really LISTEN!
Ask questions about their childhood, their families, and really, LISTEN to what they are sharing with you.
No need to bring it back to yourself, just listen to them! 🙂
5. Think of the FUN and CONNECTION!
When it comes to what to talk about with guys, we often have lots of expectations from the other one and from the date.
We want things to go a certain way, we want to know if this will lead somewhere or not, to make sure we are not losing time, but this doesn’t sound like fun!
And for sure, it’s more creating separation than connection.
And deep down, what we all want is a strong and real relationship, right?
So, talk about things that are interesting, listen to the other one, and this will create a REAL connection!
So, without overthinking it, of course, think about having fun and creating connection! 🙂
6. No need to talk about “things” yet!
You might think that bringing up “hot topics” may save you time in the long run!
But actually, you don’t have to talk about these things with guys during the first dates…
- If they want to get married
- If they want kids
- What they don’t want in a partner
Of course, at some point, it’s important to talk about these things, but in the very beginning, I think that it’s kind of ruining the magic of meeting someone new!
Then, you put them in a box and it’s hard to let them out!
So, focus on what to talk about with guys and to have fun, and create connection!
The other conversations will follow, don’t worry about it! 🙂
How to make him fall in love?
The moment you’re going on dates, of course, the best is to put on your side all the chances to make them fall in love with you!
Questions to ask guys
If you wonder what questions you can ask guys exactly, you can check these two posts!
1. 9 Brilliant First Date Questions For You to Succeed at Dating!
2. 16 Questions to Ask on Tinder to Make you Stand Out!
You’re going to love them! 🙂
To sum up!
As you can see, all that guys really want to talk about is funny stuff and interesting stuff.
You can just sit there, ask them questions, and listen genuinely to their answers!
Doing it will make them feel important and valuable.
Be interesting and interested! 🙂
Don’t make these dates first job interviews, have some fun, and let it be simple and easy!
That’s all that guys are asking for! 🙂