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Sometimes, you think that the problem you’re facing absolutely has to be solved today!
What if it doesn’t actually have to be solved… At least not for now?
Let me show you how this can absolutely change everything for you!
Problems are forever!
We tend to think that when we’ll get somewhere or get something, everything will be perfect and we won’t face any challenges or problems!
But you probably already realized in your life that even when you get something or somewhere (holidays, new job…), problems are still there!
Why is that?!
But it’s actually GREAT news!
Because it means that you don’t have to wait for something to be done with problems since there will always be problems!!
So… You can feel great right here right now! You’ll face problems here and you’ll face problems there!
I find it kind of reassuring, there’s no need to wait for being in a better place, now is the better place! 🙂
How to deal with problems…
It’s totally possible to decide to want to take care of a problem you’re facing.
If you can, do that!
But sometimes, we are SO attached to solving that problem that we might use it against us.
For example, you’ve been in a fight with your spouse.
I agree that sometimes, it’s important to discuss without too many emotions what is the problem and how we can deal with it in the future.
But… Not always!
Sometimes, you just have to LET IT GO.
I don’t actually think that everything needs to be solved and just imagine a second, what if it would be a possibility?
What if not every problem needs to be solved? How would that make things different in the moment?
What if that would help in the situation instead of what we always have done?!
What do you want instead?
I also really like the idea of asking yourself when facing a problem: What do I want instead?
It helps to turn the focus on what you actually DO want (even if sometimes, knowing what you do NOT want can be helpful to start somewhere!).
If I take the example of before with fighting or having a conflict with your spouse, it’s true that it would be great to solve the problem, but what if we could focus on what we want instead?
And this is also something that I teach: You want to focus on the solution instead of the problem and when being in a fight, it’s important to focus on what we want instead than to spin in the problem for hours!
What do you need help with?
(Choose between the 2 options)
To sum up!
As you can see, it’s totally understandable that we want to solve any problems we are facing.
But sometimes, it could be very helpful to:
1. Let it go! And consider that not every problem needs to be solved!
2. Ask ourselves: What do I want instead? On what can I focus my attention instead?
Considering these options of problem-solving will be very helpful, it can change everything for you because remember!
It’s not what is happening to you (the problems) that really make you feel this way but the way you interpret it!
What if you would not even call them problems? How would your life be different?