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The term “bad feelings” doesn’t sound too pleasant but hang in there!
This is an AWESOME idea to help you build your self-confidence, trust me!
Let’s get into idea #4…
What are bad feelings?
We may call them “bad feelings” when actually, they are simply feelings that are uncomfortable to feel.
And feelings/emotions are vibrations in our body and they are completely harmless.
The scariest isn’t the “bad feeling” itself, but the fear of the feeling!
Which sounds crazy right?
We are scared by the idea of something than by the thing itself!
It’s like when you used to be a kid and you were afraid of telling something to your parents.
The idea of talking to them about that was more frightening than the moment you actually did share what you had to share!
Isn’t that fascinating?
So, bad feelings are what we called “negative emotions” or “sad emotion”.
They are emotions that we feel when our needs aren’t being met, look at this negative emotions list:
Are they really that bad?!
They are absolutely not!
This is why I don’t want to tell you how to turn off your emotions!
We don’t like negative emotions because they are simply uncomfortable.
But what if we would actually be willing to sit with these emotions and not trying to resist them?
When you really welcome any kind of emotion, you sit with it for 2-3 minutes, and then, it’s gone!
It’s crazy to think all that we do to avoid these feelings such as snacking when we’re not hungry, scrolling down our phones, drinking…
All of these actions to avoid feeling a feeling that is completely harmless! 🙂
Also, there are some negative emotions that you will want to feel.
For example, if a friend you love is sad, you want to be able to feel their pain and to be a compassionate friend!
Or if you hear about something such as rape, you don’t want to be peaceful and relaxed thinking about that!
So, these “bad feelings” aren’t bad at all. They are simply part of life. And you don’t want to suppress emotions.
The human experience is about having 50% of the time positive emotions and 50% of the time, negative emotions.
When you accept this and you learn how to master your emotions, nothing can stop you! 🙂
Not even sad emotions!
How to feel better… With bad feelings!
We can really do whatever we want with our lives and with ourselves if we are willing to feel any kind of emotion.
That’s true! Imagine a minute.
Basically, we are or not taking an action in our life because of the way that it will make us feel!
Big goals or even small ones that we have, we’re not reaching for them because we’re afraid of the feeling of failing, for example!
Imagine what we are stopping ourselves from living because of the fear of feeling a vibration in our body!
What I recommend to feeling emotion is to do so through 6 steps:
The most important thing to do to processing emotions is really to:
- Welcome the emotion/feeling!
- Become the observer of it: Where is it in your body?
- Breathe into it!
- It’s not going to stay! Don’t think that it’s the enemy! Release emotions!
It’s a skill that we should learn at school, without a doubt! People ask me “why am i so negative”, so let me help you with that! 🙂
What do you need help with?
(Choose between the 2 options)
It’s okay to feel bad!
The big problem when it comes to bad feelings/negative emotions, it’s that we think that we’re not supposed to feel them.
We think that we have everything to be happy and that we should feel happy all the time!
We don’t value them nor give them legitimation in our lives, we most of the time want to get rid of them as quickly as possible!
We think that something needs to be fixed and that something has gone wrong!
But actually, negative emotions are part of life and it’s all okay!
Don’t ever beat yourself up for having one of those bad feelings, it just means that you’re a human being living the human experience! 🙂
To sum up!
The main points that I want you to understand today are these ones:
1. Negative emotions/bad feelings are REALLY ok to have.
Nothing has gone wrong!
It’s part of being a human being, part of the human being experience and we shouldn’t be that hard on them, we can just accept them, it will make their lives and our lives way easier! 🙂
2. You can develop the skill of welcoming every kind of emotion/feeling.
You can really become a master at how to feel emotions!
This will actually help you truly understand that they are not harmless and that again, absolutely nothing has gone wrong! :), you can do this, get out your feelings!
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