Why is it good for you to get out of your comfort zone?
And how to be comfortable while feeling discomfort? Discover the key to your success…
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Why you should embrace discomfort
You know that you will feel discomfort at some point. Wondering how to get comfortable being uncomfortable?
So you won’t freeze anymore or let fear stop you!
Let me show you what has worked for me and how you’re going to feel 100% comfortable while being uncomfortable.
The quote that changed everything to me…
Before we dive into this fascinating topic, I want to share with you a quote that I love.
I used to really feel unpleasant being in this discomfort place, you know, when you’re doing something outside of your comfort zone.
I had so many negative emotions and I had negative emotions about having these negative emotions!
All of this to say that it was really not fun feeling this way.
And then, I discovered this quote and I realized that feeling uncomfortable was really about accepting me being more human and not trying to make everything perfect or control everything and nothing.
The quote is:
Today I choose life. Every morning when I wake up I can choose joy, happiness, negativity, pain… To feel the freedom that comes from being able to continue to make mistakes and choices – today I choose to feel life, not to deny my humanity but embrace it.
– Kevyn Aucoin
So, feeling this discomfort is really about accepting our humanity, embracing it and not letting it stop us from whatever it is that we want to do!
What do you need help with?
(Choose between the 2 options)
What is discomfort and why do we feel this?
This discomfort can be fear, frustration or even doubts.
It’s happening when we do something extraordinary, something that is out of our comfort zone, something that we are not used to doing.
Since it’s something that we are not used to doing, we may have negative emotions
We have them because we’re afraid, we have frustration or doubts about what we’re doing.
So discomfort is really just emotions which are vibrations in our body! It’s nothing more!
The reason why we feel this way is again because we are going out of our comfort zone. Remember that image?
Why should we all learn how to be uncomfortable?
This is an essential skill that we would all benefits learning!
The moment that we are more self-aware that what we are feeling are just vibrations in our body and nothing more, we won’t let it stop us or mean anything special!
Learning how to deal with negative emotions is soooo important. We will then be comfortable feeling uncomfortable, as Brooke Castillo says, we will kind of find comfort in incomfort! Which is something that is really comforting, right?
What does uncomfortable feel like?
It’s actually quite self-explanatory, but what’s going on is that we don’t feel as comfortable as we would with something that we know, that we are used to.
You can picture yourself when you start something new: a new job, a new relationship, a new vacation. In opposition to your cozy home: you don’t know where you are, what’s going on, you need a bit of time for adjustment.
And the fact that it’s unusual for you, may make you feel afraid or having doubts about the situation.
So you may feel negative emotions and these vibrations in your body may be uncomfortable.
This is how uncomfortable feel like! 🙂
How do you enjoy being uncomfortable?
We agree that to reach your goals or to do something extraordinary, you will need to go out of your comfort zone.
The question is how to do this? You will feel uncomfortable so, instead of telling you not to feel negative emotions (this is impossible!), embrace the uncomfortability by learning how to feel comfortable in this discomfort!
This is how you’re going to do it:
- You will do it again and again, take actions without letting your brain or your emotions take you out of it.
To get what you want, it’s important that you will take actions, even small ones, all the time. At this moment, you will probably have thoughts about what you’re doing: fear, doubt or frustration maybe, don’t make it mean anything, it’s just your brain trying to keep you alive and save you from danger. This was important back then when we needed to survive from a tiger! Today, fear isn’t usually a threat like it used to be back then! So don’t let it be as useful as it truly was back then!
- Keep on trying everything and nothing until it works.
Going out of your comfort zone is already amazing! Now, you need to keep in mind that it won’t always work the way you want it to. But again, do not let it stop you! Try everything that you can, do not give up or let being uncomfortable stop you! Let your dreams be bigger than your fears!
- Embrace the negative emotions.
Remember that emotions are simply vibrations in our body.
Learn how to deal with negative emotion, do you remember this image that I already shared many times?
As you can see, it’s all about acknowledging the emotion, accepting it and letting it go. Without judging it. Embrace when it’s not going the way that you want it to go when it sucks, it will be okay in the end!
- Get into the habit of being more self-aware.
I always say that being self-aware is everything! It’s the first step towards every problem you’re facing. So, be more self-aware when you feel uncomfortable: remind yourself that you’re feeling this way because you’re getting out of your comfort zone, because you’re going for what you really want. And that it’s okay if you feel like “it sucks”, it’s just negative emotions, they are just vibrations in your body. Be self-aware of this and this will already be the first step to everything 🙂
- Focus on the aim.
It’s important to keep in mind: why are you trying this, why are you getting out of your comfort zone? What is the main reason behind it? It may motivate you in moments that you’re not too sure why or what you’re doing this and feeling this way!
Is it a habit that we should get?
As I said before, the habit is to embrace the uncomfortabel feeling that going out of our comfort zone will create.
I like how Brooke Castillo says that “discomfort is the currency to your dreams”. Basically, she says that you need to feel discomfort to help you grow and reach the goals that you want for you and for your life.
You will feel more comfortable feeling uncomfortable, the more you do it, the more you embrace the feelings that go with this journey.
So in summary, the habit here is to embrace every feeling and pain we are feeling and to accept it.
Embrace your humanity…
Here, I want to tell you again to embrace this humanity of yours.
I used to feel very guilty for having negative emotions, I felt like “I need to be happy all the time!” when in fact, it’s not what’s going on in reality!
Also, when we accept all of our emotions since we are less resisting them, they are leaving us quicker!
Embrace any emotion, positive or negative, they are just vibrations in our body.
Why is it the key to success?
Discomfort is really the key to your success because it will help you go out of your comfort and take the actions to reach your goals!
It’s like the sentence “no pain, no gain”, not always, but most of the time, we need to go out of our comfort zone to get what we want!
That’s what helps us grow!
There’s nothing and no one around you that got what he wanted in life without feeling that discomfort.
Success is out of your comfort zone, or you would already be successful! 😉
Success takes courage and risks to get there! If you’re willing to feel discomfort and to learn how to embrace it, you can get there too, I’m convinced! 🙂
Discomfort and self-confidence
Of course, I will be talking about discomfort and self-confidence!
How discomfort is helping us in building our self-confidence?
First, being more self-aware of what’s going on inside of us is helping us build our self-confidence. Because we understand what’s going on and we feel more comfortable with our emotions and our reactions!
Then, feeling good with negative emotions, feeling that we can handle being out of our comfort zone will help us build our self-confidence.
Because we know that we can count on us when it comes to taking risks, we know that we will be okay no matter what’s happening to us! We have our own back! 🙂
I truly believe that after a while of trying new things, being out of our comfort zone, our self-confidence is getting bigger and bigger! You just need to try it out and see by yourself, you can trust me on this! 🙂
Do you remember the podcast episode of last week, if it’s not you, it will be someone else that will succeed! 🙂
We can all succeed! 🙂
To sum up!
I just want to say that discomfort is good, discomfort is really okay.
We need to learn to embrace the negative feelings of fear, pain or doubt that goes with. Let’s get comfortable feeling uncomfortable and soon, it won’t stop you anymore!
You’ll be able to handle anything that comes your way and to become as successful as you want it to be because you have your own back, you are self-aware of what’s going on and you don’t let anything stop you!