Loving yourself, how would your life be different?
What would that make you feel?
What success can you create in your life?
Love yourself better starting today!
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What You Will Learn...
Liking yourself = a skill to develop!
Learning to like yourself is not a one-dimensional or straightforward process!
Instead, it’s a bunch of elements that go to work from the moment you are born.
Pretty much every aspect of your life has a say in how you ultimately feel about yourself.
Your interactions with others, the consequences of the choices you make, your thoughts when nobody is around, everything will play a part.
The question is whether you will let these elements break down your confidence.
Because at the end of the day, you get to choose how and if something affects you.
More specifically, you have to make a conscious decision to like yourself, because nobody can do it for you! 🙂
This is amazing news!
Because you realize that from all the love that you want to get from other people, you can give it yourself!
No need for anyone else to feel better! 🙂
Discover today how to learn to like yourself today!
The answer is closer than you think
Many people make the mistake of searching for self-worth in others!
They think that happiness is based on love and respect through the eyes of their peers.
And if more people can like them, it will naturally boost their confidence.
But with a strategy like this, only disappointment awaits.
Because you cannot trust others to make you feel good about yourself.
Keep in mind that people around you are human.
They have faults, they can get nasty, and they can fall into a bad mood and say something they don’t really mean.
Will you feel bad about yourself every time friends or family say something discouraging?
Frankly, this is not how happiness works.
You should be in control of your destiny, as well as your happiness.
This is what this post is all about – learning to like yourself! 🙂
Start with assessing your habits!
The devil is in the details!
I know that you’ve been asking how do I love myself and it’s fair!
And while it might sound like a dark way to reflect on the little things you do, it is effective.
A big part of why we fail to like ourselves is because we overlook the little things.
Your habits, regardless of how small they sound or seem, have more power than you realize.
Here are some examples of bad habits that fly underneath the radar and commonly lead to liking yourself less.
At the same time, we’ll look at ways to counter these habits.
And this is part of all the habits that will help know you know how to learn to like yourself.
A negative inner voice
Many people walk around with a very critical inner voice – the most influential entity when it comes to your happiness!
And your inner voice is so powerful because you spend every moment of every day with it.
So, if you are in the habit of criticizing yourself for almost everything you do, you are naturally not going to like yourself.
And the first step is to recognize when your inner voice is being too critical or negative.
When you start to take notice that you truly are your own worst enemy, you have to get proactive!
In other words, you have to stop those negative thoughts in their tracks and replace them with something positive.
And the more you do it, the quicker you program your inner voice to be a cheerleader, not a party crasher.
From brushing your teeth with extra care this morning to putting in a productive day at work, always feel free to congratulate yourself.
Here, I really want you also to become the watcher and the observer of the way you are thinking and of the way you are talking to yourself.
Don’t judge what you’re going to find!
Look at it with compassion and curiosity!
Accept yourself love yourself!
What do you need help with?
(Choose between the 2 options)
Spending too much time with negative people
Letting go of friends you’ve known for a long time is never easy.
But sometimes it could be a necessity if you truly want to start liking yourself. You have to be honest when you question the attitudes of the people you spend time with.
Do they like being critical of others?
Can they be critical of you sometimes?
Do they generally focus on the worse part rather than the silver lining? If this sounds familiar when you spend time with friends, find a way out.
Yes, it is true that you should not put your happiness in the hands of others.
However, it does not stop friends and family from being influential.
So, when you socialize, do it with people that make you feel good about yourself.
You eat whatever food is available
Whether you struggle with sticking to a target weight or simply don’t care about your weight, your diet can significantly improve how you look at yourself.
Unfortunately, it is a stigma that diets and eating programs only cater to those looking to lose a few pounds. The truth is food (a comfort zone when feeling depressed) can make the situation worse.
Because emotional eating can ultimately cause serious health problems, not to mention make you more depressed.
When you get more specific and informed about what you eat and when you eat it, it means you are actively taking care of yourself.
And when you take better care of yourself, you prove that you are worth something.
If you haven’t gotten specific with your diet yet, there is never a better moment than the present.
And you will be surprised at how much better you feel, simply because you give your body the nutritional value it requires to function!
You have to realize that everything starts with you and what you tell yourself.
If you program yourself to fail, that’s the outcome you should expect.
If you program your habits towards success, you are still going to experience disappointment, but you also increase the odds of reaching your goals.
And because you like yourself, you’ll see mistakes as opportunities to learn, not reasons to give up! 🙂
Get hobbies and goals!
Now that we’ve covered some essentials for liking yourself more, it is time to move to the next couple of elements, namely hobbies and goals.
What you pass your time with is definitely important, so keep reading.
Build confidence by putting yourself out there
One of the best ways you can start to like yourself more involves developing your skills.
Do you have a passion for the arts? Or do you like cooking? Maybe you’ve always wanted to learn how to dance properly?
Give yourself the opportunity to impress yourself by doing something you never saw yourself doing.
The point is to put yourself out there. This is how you build confidence in your ability, and you also learn important things about yourself!
Never stop challenging yourself!
Time has a weird way of changing our perspectives on life.
For example, you may have liked yourself when you were younger. But as a young adult, you struggle to see the magic you saw back then.
What happened to the person you liked being? In a relationship with myself?
Chances are you stopped challenging yourself along the way. When you got the job you applied for, you stagnated in the position.
When you mastered the art of painting, you stopped painting altogether without trying something new.
Would you have settled for “just okay” back then because you simply didn’t really understand the pain of judgment?
As we get older, we pay more attention to what people around us have to say.
This inspires us to take fewer risks and accept that we are not as significant in the cycle of life.
At least, this is how things are for people who do not like themselves.
So, the best way to address this issue is to shoot for the stars and trust in yourself while doing it.
If you fail, it’s another valuable lesson you can take with you towards the gates of success.
Set small achievable goals!
Odds are you already feel a lot of pressure from many different sources.
For instance, you could be under pressure as an employee while having to provide for a small family.
There is also pressure from society to live according to a certain lifestyle, which is usually defined by the media.
All this pressure can lead us to set very big goals, and we give ourselves limited time to achieve them.
And before you know it, you hate yourself for never following through on the goals you set.
Make no mistake; there is nothing wrong with big goals!
And you should hang on them.
But why not create short-term and long-term goals instead of putting so much pressure on yourself?
Assess what you need right now and work out a strategy. And with every small goal you reach, you will feel more confident about sticking to your bigger goals.
More importantly, you are going to start loving yourself for it! 🙂
And how to love yourself again is such an important thing to do…
It’s also about self-care…
Taking care of yourself is an important part of loving yourself more.
There are amazing tips to self-love out there.
By doing this, you are showing to yourself that you are worth it!
That you are worth taking the time for! 🙂
I love all of this self-love and self-care!
To get more details on self-care and what are the benefits of your self-esteem, please head over to this famous post of mine: Incredible 30-Day Self-Care Challenge Ideas!
What about relationships?
It is the hardest thing to maintain a healthy relationship when one or both parties have self-esteem problems.
Sure, you can stay together.
But for the most part, there are going to be a lot of misunderstandings and fights, simply because there is no trust.
When you start a relationship with the hope that it will make you feel better about yourself, the plan is bound to fail.
No matter how badly you want to be with someone, you unconsciously sabotage the relationship due to your own insecurities.
Then you leave the person you love more damaged than anything else, while you damage yourself.
Can you honestly say you were a happy and confident person on your own?
If not, it means you need to dig a little deeper.
When people tell me “I don t love myself”, I’m asking them to have a look at the relationships that they have in their life too.
Sure, most people have some type of romantic fantasy about meeting the perfect partner, but will you still smile the next morning if this fantasy doesn’t pan out?
If you are serious about making your relationship work, learn to like yourself first.
Otherwise, you are just going to damage what could have been something special.
And here are some additional tips when you do get involved with someone:
- Be honest and open about your feelings!
- Stop comparing yourself to other people!
- Feel comfortable enough to be yourself!
- Realize that the end of a relationship does not make you a bad person!
People are naturally attracted to individuals who like themselves.
And if your goal is to build self-esteem in order to maintain a healthy relationship, take all of the above into consideration.
So much more love to yourself!
Everything comes down to you!
How much you like yourself will reflect in your actions!
And you can love yourself more.
And by taking action, you will like yourself more.
It can start with the smallest element, like congratulating yourself every time you get to work safely, and gradually grow towards stronger affirmations.
You make the choice to embrace who you are, you have control, you decide if you are worthy of love.
It is just a matter of accepting the power you have.
And it’s truly amazing that you don’t need anybody else to love yourself more!
It gives you so much power!
You and only YOU have this power and it’s amazing news!
I used to tell myself “I want to learn to love myself”.
Being aware was already the start of something good! 🙂
There are so many things to love about yourself!
Quotes to love yourself
Enjoy a few great quotes to help you like yourself better this year, so you can love who you are!
Amazing love thyself quotes, right? 🙂
Learning self-love is simply amazing…
To sum up!
As you can see, you can start liking yourself more starting right now.
Pay attention to the thoughts you’re having without judgment.
Simply from a compassionate and curious place.
Listen to the little voice in your head and then, start talking to yourself like you would talk to someone that you love!
What would you tell a friend?
To help them love themselves better?
Then go and do that for yourself! 🙂
You may also be interested in…
- 8 Self-Confidence Examples to Help You Live Your Best Life
- Incredible 30-Day Self-Care Challenge Ideas
- 15 Habits Of Extremely Successful People
- Self-Esteem & Self-Confidence, What’s the Difference?