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What if you could hang out with people and feel loved for who you truly are?
Wouldn’t that feel amazing?!
Today, I wanted to talk to you about authenticity and how being more authentic can really CHANGE your life, for the better.
On the way, discover how it can help you build a long-lasting self-confidence!
Get ready for this! It’s going to rock your world as it did with mine! 🙂
What does it mean to live authentically?
This is a great question to start with!
In my opinion, to live authentically is to first know what our true values are (what we are accepting and what is unacceptable) and to live for them.
Which doesn’t mean that we aren’t flexible in our behaviors and reactions, but that we know what is important to us, what makes us happy and that we are living them and through them 100% of the time. That we are standing up for them in an assertive way.
Then, living authentically is also being 100% who we really are in every moment of our life and not trying to be or appear as someone we are not.
What do I mean by that?
In every situation of our life, we need to behave in congruence with our qualities and flaws and to embrace this imperfection.
We need to adapt ourselves, but to always remember what we really feel inside of us, which is giving details on our personality and characters.
For example, if you like “fun”, you shouldn’t force yourself to laugh at jokes that you don’t want/feel like laughing at!
That sounds like a silly example but you would be surprised at how much I receive questions about “how and if we should fake things”…
What do you need help with?
(Choose between the 2 options)
Why should you be authentic?
This is the amazing thing with being really authentic and true to yourself: you feel deeply connected to yourself which makes you feel an absolute quiet inside of you.
And it’s not only about the relationships you have with yourself, but you are also building a profound and sincere connection with the people you love because they are loving you for who you genuinely are!
And this is in my opinion, the best feeling ever.
For example, you know when you are hanging out with people you love, laughing, talking and having a good time? You are being yourself (hopefully!) which makes you feel just relaxed and comfortable, you know what I mean?
In opposition, have you ever said something or been in a situation and you don’t feel like you were 100% yourself?
For example, I remember not sharing my opinions about a certain topic because I was afraid of being judged. And then, I felt so alone with my thoughts and feelings!
It can be very frustrating and sad actually because you are afraid of not being loved for who you truly are which is something that we would all prefer, right?
This is why we should be authentic: when we are really ourselves, we are really in alignment with us, with what’s alive in us, as Marshall Rosenberg once said (he’s the creator of the Non-Violent Communication Method).
How can you live an authentic life? 4 ways to free yourself!
I love that topic so much, probably you can understand that while going through this post!
Let me share with you 4 ways that can help you with living authentically, you’re going to love it! 🙂
1. Be true to your values
The moment that you will know what your true values are, you should create more situations in which you are living true to them!
What I mean by that is that when you know what is important to you, you will be able to organize your life with more things that really matter to you.
For example, the moment that I realized that my first value is LOVE, I discovered that what I really like is to hang out with the people that I love.
I then created many situations in which I would be able to enjoy moments with these people.
It was super nice in the first place to know what I really like to do and then, to organize more times on my agenda to do what I actually really like! Sounds nice, no?
So, what is REALLY important in your eyes?
2. Be reliable
You need to be authentic towards others but also towards yourself.
When you say that you will do something, keep your word and do it.
Do what you say and say what you do, be someone we can trust, someone we can count on!
If you’re interested in that topic, you have to listen to the podcast episode 3 Ways To Become The Most Reliable Person That You Know.
3. Know yourself better and embrace what you find!
Of course, it can be a bit hard to live an authentic life if you’re not sure how to be more authentic!
The very first step is to know yourself better.
So, have a look at this post/podcast episode 5 Questions to Ask Yourself!
4. Be 100% there in every moment
Often, we have things on our minds and a lot of thoughts going on in our head.
It totally makes sense! But I think that we should also try to be 100% present in every situation of our life.
We should really LIVE in the present.
And this carpe diem journey starts with listening carefully when someone’s talking. You have to listen to that podcast episode called The Tool You Need To Build Your Self-Confidence, listening is an amazing skill that we aren’t talking about enough! 🙂
How can I be my authentic self in a relationship?
This isn’t something that is easy to do!
Let me tell you why. When you are in a relationship, of course that you want to be loved for who you truly are.
At the same time, you really want to be loved no matter what and wanting to be perfect, so you may not feel that being 100% your true self can be the thing to do.
So let me share my opinion on that topic.
You definitely SHOULD be your true self because if you really love someone (and that goes for your friends and family too, not just for a romantic relationship), you need to offer them your true self and to fake being someone you’re not.
You want to build a real connection with these people and that person in particular and you can do this only when you’re 100% your most authentic self.
This is first.
Then, you can adapt your behavior and your reaction!
It’s funny because I know people that are saying “I said that and did this because this is me!”, but I disagree with this. You are not your behaviors.
We can all have an effect and change our behaviors WITHOUT changing who we are, our personality and our values.
I hope that makes sense! 🙂
It’s a bit more philosophical, but why not? 🙂
How being more authentic is related to building your self-confidence
You are probably understanding where I’m going with this…!
The more you’ll be authentic, the more comfortable you’re going to feel.
And to build your self-confidence, I always recommend discovering who you truly are and embrace what you find!
So authenticity definitely = building your self-confidence.
Follow the 4 ways that I talked about above and you’ll see, you’ll build your self-confidence! I have no doubt about it! 🙂
To sum up!
As you can see, being authentic can be just amazing!
And you don’t even need to do anything special or new besides being your true self!
And what’s happening when you’re 100% yourself? You’ll feel really comfortable being who you are! And this my friends, is a really nice feeling! 🙂
To your most authentic YOU! 🙂
