You want to feel more self-confident, you’ve seen many people being good at it, so what is the one secret you need to know to get your inner confidence out?
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✓ Should I read this? You need to read this if you’re interested in growing your inner self-confidence and feel amazing being the person that you truly are.
✓ How is it going to help me? The secret that I’m sharing in this post is something that BLEW ME AWAY the moment that I heard about it. It makes so much sense! The moment that you’ll discover it and think about it, you’ll already feel more and more self-confident.
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The secret to becoming more self-confident
Looking for more confidence?
If you are on your journey of bringing out that inner self-confidence, stop a minute and read this.
The moment that I realized it, it changed everything. I felt already trusting myself more than a minute before and days after days, I was convinced that it changed everything inside of me.
Let’s jump into it and let’s discover what’s this one secret…
The secret: knowing that no matter what, you will be okay.
Brooke Castillo’s Podcast
I started listening to Brooke Castillo from The Life Coach School Podcast and she’s AMAZING.
Since I learned how to coach, I remember her, I’ve read a lot about her. But it’s very recently that I’ve started listening to her podcasts thank’s to Natalie Bacon.
In every podcast, I’m learning something and I feel like “Aha, this makes sense”. I do not necessarily agree with everything she says, but most of it is simply AWESOME.
The difference between self-confidence and confidence
Okay so she recorded a podcast about self-confidence and in it, she said that we need to make the difference between self-confidence and confidence.
She says that “confidence can be specific to practiced skills or talents, for example, some people can say that I’m very confident when it comes to playing basketball. But self-confidence is an overall mindset about your ability in all areas of life that matter to you.”
Then, she explains it perfectly and says that feeling and being self-confident is a matter of knowing that you will be okay and will be able to deal no matter what will happen in that situation.
Basically, this is amazing, because it says that being self-confident isn’t only about practicing the skills that we’re good at. But it’s more than everything, being sure that even if we are not doing it as perfectly as we want to, everything will be okay, we will be okay and that we need to trust ourselves considering this.
Self-confidence is an overall mindset about your ability in all areas of life that matter to you.
This is SO POWERFUL!
In my opinion, we need to get to know ourselves better and to know what we’re good at to grow this self-confidence.
Then, we are more ready to take actions and to put all of our chances on our side that these actions will be successful of course!
But what she is saying here is simply AMAZING. You can do all of what I just said AND also, keep in mind that you will be okay. Why? Because when you think about it, our reactions depend on our own interpretation, which can be very far from real facts 🙂 it’s all in our head!
We can choose how to react to what’s happening to us
Our fear and self-doubts in every situation, wondering “What will happen?”
The first time I thought about this, I was a bit skeptical. It took me a bit of time to realize that it’s true: the thing that makes us having self-doubts is the fear of what can happen.
But when you think about it, WE are the ones giving an interpretation of everything that is happening to us.
Let’s take an example: you’re going to a job interview. You are SO AFRAID. But afraid of what, actually? What can go wrong? Being asked questions that we don’t know how to answer? Not being hired after all? Being judged?
How we react to it
Things will happen a certain way in our life and we are choosing how to react to it.
I know that you may probably say “but sometimes it’s not really my fault!”.
But I can tell you, you don’t need this self-pity on yourself. I learned this in the amazing life-changing course of Natalie Bacon and she was right: there’s no need to feel this way about yourself.
There will be hard times, there will be problems and I like that Tony Robbins is saying that “The only problem we have is that we think that we shouldn’t have any”.
Don’t get me wrong! It’s not solving any of my problems 😉 but in a certain way, it’s giving me more legitimacy to understand it.
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You can handle no matter what comes in your way – this is you being confident in yourself
To grow your inner self-confidence, you need to start believing in yourself.
You need to believe that no matter what, you will be okay.
It’s because we are afraid of the negative emotions we may feel that we don’t have self-confidence in ourselves.
But what if I’m telling you that we can learn how to understand our emotions? Then you can become confident that no matter what will happen, if a situation will make you feel positive or negative emotions, YOU WILL BE OKAY.
And this conclusion is worth so much! Right? 🙂
Confidence leads to happiness. Let’s get you there!
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One book about self-confidence?
The book that I’m reading now and that is simply AMAZING is The Power of Self-Confidence: Become Unstoppable, Irresistible, and Unafraid in Every Area of Your Life by Brian Tracy.
It has SO MUCH in 150 pages. After reading this, you’ll be already on your way to grow your self-confidence like.a.boss. 🙂
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What do you think about that secret?
Does it make sense to you? What is part of being truly self-confident in your opinion? Let me know in the comment section 🙂
What about boosting your self-esteem? 🙂
I heard a lot about the life coach school… What do you think about it? It’s pretty far from where we live though!
Hi Jenna! 🙂
I know a few people that learned how to coach with Brooke Castillo! I think that she’s really amazing 🙂 you can learn A LOT from her 🙂
So, if it’s something you’re interested in learning and you have the budget for that, it’s a great option! 🙂
Since I learned to coach in Switzerland, I don’t know too many schools in the US…? Sorry that I cannot help! Where do you live?
Thank you Tamar.
I live in Denver. I need to think about it! Do you know anyone who learned from Brooke Castillo? I’m not sure if I can trust all of her testimonials…
– Jenna
Hi Jenna!
I actually have a friend that learned from her and really LOVED IT! I could put you two in touch if you’re interested? 🙂
Send me an email to tamara@personal-development-zone.com and I will give you her email address 🙂
Thank you for this…
I really needed to hear this today… I am not used to taking actions and I liked what you said about that.
I used to wonder why I’m not taking actions and I really wanted to find a solution to this problem.
Today, I would like to listen to a podcast about taking actions. I’m probably not the only one!
If it is something that is in your plans, let us know, I’m sure that I won’t be the only one that will be happy to hear what you have to say about it!
Thank you again, I really needed this today!
David M. Johnson
Hi David!!
I’m so sorry! I just saw your comment today I don’t know how that happened!
Thank you so much for your kind words! Yes! Taking actions is definitely something that is in my plan! You will be the first one to know when it’s LIVE 🙂
Thank you again, I’m glad to hear that this is what you needed to hear today!! 🙂
Tamara
Great episode, I liked it! – Are you recording other episodes?
I am!! Thank you very much! 🙂 There is a new episode every Tuesday!!
I just published a new one today!! Check it out using this link 🙂 https://personal-development-zone.com/get-confident-get-happy-podcast/
Let me know what you think about it! 🙂
I LOVE BRIAN TRACY! Have you read any other book from him?
Hi Lisa 🙂
I did not! But I heard a lot about him and visited many times his website 🙂 I was actually looking for his podcasts the other day… Have you listened to anything he said? 🙂