What are your beliefs?
And how are they playing a huge role in building your self-confidence?
Become more self-confident by mastering your belief system!
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Discover how you can master your belief system
I remember learning 5 years ago about beliefs and how much it changed everything to me!!
I can’t wait to share it with you too!
The moment that you will understand how your beliefs are playing a huge role in your self-confidence, you’ll see things completely differently.
The benefits are that you’ll feel relaxed and relieved figuring out what beliefs do you have and how you can have an influence on them.
Let me first start by explaining to you what beliefs are and then, I’ll continue by showing how they are important in building your self-confidence.
Let’s get started!!
What are beliefs?
I totally love this topic!
I remember the moment I discovered what beliefs I had.
The funny thing is, the moment you start paying attention to them, you’ll listen to someone and will hear all the beliefs they are believing in…! It’s fascinating 🙂
But let’s first start by discovering what exactly are beliefs.
We all have beliefs regarding ourselves, others and the reality in general.
They are a perception of the reality, “our reality” in fact. They are built from the experiences we are living.
For example, a 4 years old kid got bitten by a big dog. From this day on, this kid will maybe believe that “all big dogs are dangerous”.
When in fact, we know that it’s not necessarily true! Beliefs are helping people to decide what is important in life and what is “true” (seems real) to them.
Some beliefs are more important than others: the believes that an individual has about his identity (who he is) and about his capacities (what he’s capable of doing).
Most of the time, we don’t even know that we have beliefs, we just have them and they sound completely right to us because they are “our reality”.
We are making important decisions based on those beliefs, and they are also influencing our feelings and the actions we are taking.
What do you need help with?
(Choose between the 2 options)
Beliefs are related to our thoughts!
If you’ve been reading my blog, you know that I love what Natalie Bacon is saying when she’s stating that:
Thought > Feelings > Actions > Results
This is so interesting!
Basically, she’s saying that our thoughts create our feelings that create actions and our actions create the results that we have in our life.
So, beliefs are kind of thoughts that we have in our head and that are responsible for the results we have in our life.
Is a belief changing in time? What do you believe?
Even one experience can completely change a belief. If the event has a big (positive or negative) impact, it can change the belief forever.
For example, let’s imagine that the small kid will be brave enough to approach a big dog. Surprisingly, this big dog will be adorable and the kid’s belief can change immediately by becoming “big dogs are really nice”.
It’s not always working so extremely, it just to show you that beliefs can really be transformed from the experiences we are living every day.
Limiting or helping beliefs
The very interesting part of discovering our beliefs is to see if they are helping us or limiting us.
For example, the kind of beliefs as “Today is going to be a good day, I will call this customer and I will make him sign the contract! I’m believing in me!” can be an amazing belief!
It’s a “I believe I can” kind of belief! Or also like “she believed she could so she did” kind of belief!
It can help the person to get enough confidence in getting what he/she really wants.
But someone who’s 55 years old and thinks that “people over 35 are too old to go back to university” will maybe stop himself/herself to go to university and learn something new… just because of this belief!
How to identify what your beliefs are…
Here you will find the typical structure of people’s beliefs. Let’s discover if you believe and about what you maybe are…
Fill the blank to see what beliefs are limiting you and which ones are helping you…
1. I’m not entirely succeeding in… because…
2. If I’m succeeding in… I’m afraid of…
3. Getting everything that I want in… will probably cause me…
4. If I’m trying… I’m afraid of…
5. I cannot become…because…
6. It’s not possible for me to… because…
7. I will never be… because…
8. I will never have… because…
9. I will never succeed at… because…
10. I will always have the problem of… because…
11. It’s not good to always wish to be… because…
12. I don’t deserve… because…
Are our beliefs helping or limiting us?
Now, you can ask yourself the following question…
Take one belief that you discovered in the last paragraph and ask yourself this question:
“Is this belief helping me in feeling happier in my life? Or is it stopping me from doing something that could make my life better and happier?”
Of course, you first need to figure out what life you want to live :), what is important to you and what truly matters to you! 🙂
The moment that you discovered this, you can determine if you have limiting or helping beliefs in your life 🙂
How your belief system can influence your self-confidence
This is a very interesting point of course 😉
To build your self-confidence, you need beliefs that are supporting you!
For example, saying to yourself “I can talk to this person/my boss and everything will be okay no matter what will happen” is a belief that will help you feel good about yourself and what you’re doing!
So definitely, the beliefs that you have towards yourself (identity as I said up there) and towards what you can do (abilities) will help or limit you when it comes to building an unshakable self-confidence.
Now, I want you to ask yourself several questions…
What do you need to believe to feel more self-confident in your life?
What do you believe that you can do to feel more self-confident in your everyday life?
What is possible for you in your life, right here right now?
What can you do in your life to achieve the results that you want in your life?
What thoughts do you need to have to make you take the actions you need to create the results that you want in your life?
I know that all of these questions aren’t easy to answer. Take your time to do it, as I always say, to be aware is SO IMPORTANT! You’re already half-way, just by being aware of what’s going on inside of you 🙂
To sum up!
As you just discovered, your belief system has an important role when it comes to building your self-confidence.
You need to have beliefs that are supporting the results, what you really want to live in your life.
So, start by paying attention to what beliefs you may have, then ask yourself if they are helping you or limiting you and also, continue asking yourself the following question:
What do you need to believe to get the results that you want in your life? The ones that will make you happy, fulfilled and contented?