You ever had this question flashing across your mind?
- Why this happens to me always?
- Why am I not happy or satisfied?
- Why do I have to compromise on my likes, dreams, love, and relationships?
I used to get this terrible train of thought for a long time!
It happens to all of us.
While speaking to our family members, friends, colleagues, we start complaining to everyone about our issues consciously or unconsciously!
I’m here to share my experience and discuss a few positive techniques that help you finally stop complaining!
Why do we complain?
You’re dying to know, right? 🙂
And we want to define complaining also.
- When you didn’t achieve something you wanted to achieve, you start complaining.
- When you don’t accept yourself the way you are, you start complaining.
- When you get stuck in the pool of negative thoughts, you start complaining.
- When you see that life has taken control out of your hands, you start complaining.
This list can turn out to be a never-ending sequence of reasons if I go on mentioning them…
In short, complaining is our frustration of insecurities which we wanna express in some way or the other by simply blaming others for our problems and failures.
I totally get you!
But there is a solution to this, I promise! 🙂
Who is responsible for your problems?
Ask yourself who is responsible for your issues, problems, failures?
I’m sure that someone will pop up in your mind ready to be blamed.
I totally get you! 🙂
Problems are forever and you don’t have to blame anyone for your problems.
The right attitude is to find solutions to solve them, blaming isn’t helping too much when you think about it…
We all commit mistakes, we all have some inabilities, drawbacks as we all are humans.
Let me share some important factors which you complain about frequently.
7 reasons that make you complain
1. Perception
You heard it right!
- Does your perception play a key role in transforming your personality from the way you are?
- Towards whom do you want to be?
Yes, it’s all about the way you look at the world and things.
It reflects your hidden fears and insecurities.
2. Response
The way you respond to your issues matters a lot in minimizing or increasing your list of complaints.
It can be positive towards resolving an issue and measures your ability or inability to face resolve issues.
3. Comparison
It’s not wrong if I say every second person get into this habit of comparing yourself to others.
Especially, in today’s competitive world..!
Where every single gadget and skill needs to get updated regularly.
Do you still wanna adhere to the same mindset?
Know your worth and build up your skills! 🙂
4. Willpower
Your willingness to sit back watching the problem in the hope of a miracle eventually ignites the flame of your negative thoughts which takes the toll you, I mean “the real you.”
You can develop more willpower to win over the situation.
I know that it’s not easy, but you can become better at it! 🙂
5. Emotions
The emotions which can fill your heart with happiness can also break your heart.
These emotions make you rely on others snatching away your freedom.
It depends on our ability to understand, manage and overcome these emotions.
Learn more about how to deal with your emotions to take your power back!
No one is responsible for the way you’re feeling but yourself and this is AMAZING NEWS!
6. Isolation
Technology has made the world such a small place to connect with each other.
It’s just a matter of a click and it directs you worldwide.
We really have the world at our fingertips.
On the other hand, it has also disconnected us from the real world.
7. Health
You might have heard that no wealth is much precious than your health.
If you own a luxurious lifestyle, you have everything at your service but however, if you are not healthy then you need to get serious about your healthy lifestyle.
It is one of the most common reasons for complaining.
12 proven tips to stop complaining
So far we have discussed the problems and reasons for complaining.
Now it’s time to talk about the solutions which are just a few simple steps.
Try to incorporate them into your life and trust me it actually works…!
Let’s see how to stop complaining about life?
I know that it isn’t easy to just tell yourself dont complain!
1. Write down your problems and blessings
Are you wondering how it works?
You need to take a pen and paper and make a list of your problems and your blessings separately.
Now count your problems and blessings, you will certainly have an incredible list of your blessings.
And you can see that in the end, everything is in your head.
As I always say, circumstances are neutral!
It’s not really what is happening in your life that matters but what you make it mean, how you’re looking at it.
2. Become a fighter
Try to find out solutions for your problems instead of building up stress.
Try to be action-oriented, think of what you can do to get a different result.
If there is a problem there is a solution for it!
All you need to do is shift your attention from “everything is over” to “so much is to be done.”
Eventually, it makes you focus on the solution rather than complaining about it! 🙂
People complain and there is a solution to this! 🙂
3. Be grateful
How to stop complaining about everything?
Always be grateful for this life.
Be grateful for what you have instead of shedding tears on something that is out of your reach.
And don’t think that something has gone wrong.
We should not be happy all the time!
It’s part of the human being’s experience to have negative emotions.
Accept it, nothing has gone wrong, you’re simply human! 🙂
What if we would stop fighting feeling bad about feeling bad?
4. Believe in yourself
You have no idea how special and unique you are!
Yes, miracles do happen, have faith in yourself and take action, even small ones.
You need to take initiatives
The first thing is to get to know yourself better and then to believe in what you’re finding.
You are good enough, you can do whatever you want with your life, you have nothing to lose to believe in yourself! 🙂
People who complain aren’t less good than others!
5. Stop expecting too much
How to stop complaining about relationships?
It’s human nature to expect a lot.
Expectations from others make you rely on them.
It’s completely okay to keep a certain amount of expectations from your relationships or your colleagues.
Just make sure not to extend it to the point where others start controlling your life.
You may end up hurting yourself when you fail to get desired results.
You can always ask people to help you fulfill your needs (giving you hugs, taking out the trash…) but don’t rely on other people to make you feel a certain way!
Your happiness and fulfillment come from within, don’t give that power to somebody else.
They come from thoughts that you have and NO ONE has control over the thoughts that you have!
6. Change your perception
How to stop moaning and being negative?
Discover how you can control negative thoughts.
Your perception is the base of your happiness or sorrows.
Try to change the way of looking at things, you might be missing something essential which you may find at this point of view.
It revives your desire to fight against the circumstances! 🙂
Of course, it’s also possible to have negative thoughts and to feel negative emotions if that’s what you want at that moment.
If someone you love is suffering if something terrible happened, it’s totally okay to feel negative emotions.
Just don’t self-indulge in them, don’t behave like a victim.
Take your power back and after master feeling the emotion, understand that circumstances are neutral and you decide what to think of that situation.
Everything in your life starts from the thoughts that you have.
You are not your thoughts and you can choose your thoughts just like you choose your clothes every day!
People complains but it doesn’t have to be that way!
7. Be an Active Listener
How to stop someone from complaining?
Stop complaining and sharing your problems with everyone around you except a few trustworthy people.
You may feel relieved sharing your feelings with only a few people.
Offer it to others too! 🙂
Try to extend your helping hand to others who need it.
It not only boosts your enthusiasm but also motivates you to feel contented.
You will stop complaining about your issues when you get closer to others and listen genuinely to what they are sharing with you.
I really understand how chronic complaining feels like. I get you!
And I’m here to help you how to stop complaining and start!
8. Failure is a hidden blessing
Yes, you got it right..!
Failure is indeed a blessing.
How is that possible?
Have you ever imagined during your childhood you might have fallen multiple times while taking your first step to walk? Did you stop walking?
Absolutely not…!
You got up each time tried to walk again until you learned it…
This amazing formula also applies to life.
It’s really good to go through hardships, trials of life which makes you powerful and independent to deal with your problems smartly.
9. Live in the world of Possibilities
- What are the possibilities in your life?
- What can you achieve?
- What are your goals?
You all have dreams, desires, and goals but you somehow fail to gather all your courage to achieve them.
You already predict failure by not even trying!
What happens if you fail?
You will learn to fight back and perform in a much better manner than before, just as I showed you.
Stop focusing on your drawbacks and set your efforts to turn all the possibilities into reality.
Keep trying it’s never too late to take a new startup! 🙂
10. Love yourself
Focus on self -improvement.
Love yourself for being the way you are.
Look into the mirror every morning and say….!
- I’m pretty…
- I’m confident…
- I’m healthy…
- I’m a fighter
- I’m alive…
It may sound strange but it provides an incredibly positive impact on your personality.
Also, love yourself more and more with these 5 Little-Known Ways to Practice Self Love!
11. Embrace the gifts of nature
Try to make time for a short walk regularly, get yourself closer to nature.
Watch sunrise and sunset, observe the flying birds in the sky.
Enjoy the simple things of life!
When you see how the day turns into night and how another day arrives with uncountable opportunities, you will prepare yourself for the upcoming challenges and opportunities! 🙂
12. Do the things you love
When you have free time, what do you like doing?
Take the time for yourself to enjoy life and what it has to offer.
Don’t overthink or complicate things.
Happiness comes from within and from moments of your life.
Think of what makes you happy and create more thoughts are that!
By the way, I created a self-care 30-day challenge, you have to check it out, it will give you tons of great ideas! 🙂
Stop complaining quotes
Let me share with you my favorite stop complaining quote:
To sum up!
We all have some imperfections.
You have two choices either accept the situation and adjust yourself according to it.
Or… Change the way you look at the situation, take action and get different results! 🙂
No complain about that!
Are you ready to transform your complaints into strengths?
