Wondering how to overcome self-doubt and build your self-confidence?
Discover the 12 pillars that are the foundations for your self-confidence journey!
Why building self-confidence?
I love that question!!
Why should we build our self-confidence?!
When you don’t feel too self-confident, you might not trust yourself or your abilities.
You may not take action, not share an opinion…
Which is a shame in my opinion! 🙂
Everyone should share what they have to say! In nice and respecting manners of course! 😉
So, why building self-confidence?
So that you can face every fear and challenge.
Life can get tough sometimes and being self-confident can help you go through anything…
Also, when you are self-confident, you feel quiet, relaxed, and comfortable being who you truly are!
These are amazing emotions! 🙂
Why organizing it this way?
Since self-confidence is a skill that ANYONE can develop if they want to, I’ve decided to create a structure for it.
You may feel overwhelmed when it comes to building your self-confidence.
You don’t really know where to start, what article to read, what courses to take…!
So I’ve thought and organized the 12 pillars that if you focus on each one of them, you can build a long-lasting self-confidence, I’m 100% convinced of it.
Let’s dive into each one of them, so you can understand better what I mean by that.
The 12 pillars
Be more self-aware
I always say that being more self-aware is the start of anything.
When it comes to building your self-confidence, being aware of WHY you want to be more self-confident and in what situations is already a great start.
Ask yourself these questions to start somewhere! 🙂
Get to know yourself
As I always say, we are comfortable with what we know.
So, get to know yourself better, what are your values? Grab this free PDF to discover them! 🙂
What are your strengths and talents?
What is your purpose in life?
Start with all of this and you will already know yourself better. When you do this, you can use everything you find as resources to reach for your dreams and goals! 🙂
Accept yourself
I remember reading that self-confidence starts with self-acceptance.
You have amazing qualities!
You don’t need to be perfect to be loved and to have a fulfilling life! 🙂
Accept who you are.
You will spend your whole life with yourself, better have some good company, right? 🙂
Realize that no one is better than you
There is none like you! 🙂
We are in admiration of other people and it’s a good thing!
You can get inspired by others and with what they’ve done!
But you also need to realize that NO ONE is better than you. No matter if they know more on a topic than you do, if they “succeed” in something, it does not matter, it doesn’t mean that they are better than you!!
It took me some time to realize this, but it slowly slowly really made a difference in my eyes!
Be authentic, 100% yourself
Embrace your uniqueness!!
Being 100% yourself, you have no competition!!
Also, when you are truly yourself, you are connecting to the deepest part of you!
It’s so comfortable and relaxing to just be who we really are, right? 🙂
Also, when you spend time with others and you are your true self, you connect on a deeper level.
As you can see, you have only great reasons to be your true self! 🙂
Take action
Face and challenge your fears every day! 🙂
Listen to this podcast episode on How Taking Action is Helping You Grow Your Self-Confidence and discover that when you take action, there are 2 consequences:
Or you get the success you wanted or you get feedback!
So, you don’t have to be afraid of taking action from now on!
Just keep in mind that no matter what, you will be okay! 🙂
Look at your accomplishments
What have you achieved in your life?
For sure you can think of something! 🙂
Ask yourself: Why is it a success in your opinion? How did it happen, in your opinion?
Can you use resources that you used back then for your future goals and dreams? 🙂
Be empathetic 24/7
Understand that everyone is trying their best! 🙂
Try to look at the reality from this other person’s perspective.
When you start being super empathetic, you won’t take anything personally anymore, it’s never against you! 🙂
Listen to the episode called The Secret to Stop Taking Things Personally and understand how being more empathetic can help you build your self-confidence.
Take care of yourself
Take the time to “recharge your batteries”.
To build your self-confidence, it’s essential to take good care of yourself.
Book in your agenda time to do activities that you like! Reading, painting, swimming, anything that makes you feel good!
You know when we say that if you take care of your relationships, you then have great relationships!
Well, it’s the same with the relationship with ourselves. And how to do that? By doing more of the things we love and that makes us feel good!
Practice this skill
As I always say, self-confidence is a skill to develop! 🙂
Practice this skill every day of your life and you will improve it!! I’m 100% sure!
No one was born with it, I can assure you this! 🙂
You too, you can be super self-confident! 🙂
Understand your emotions
Understand the positive intention of every kind of emotion!
When you are more familiar with your emotions and the way you’re feeling, you’ll feel more comfortable in EVERY situation of your life.
The direct consequence is that you feel more in control of every one of your behaviors and of your life in general! 🙂
It doesn’t mean that you will stop feeling all the emotions. They are the sign of what’s going on inside of you, so they are important!
But understanding them and their positive intention is really amazing, trust me on this! 🙂
If you are interested in that topic, you have to listen to the podcast episode called How To Deal With Your Emotions And Boost Your Self-Confidence!
Have self-confidence heroes
I love this idea!!
Look up to 2-3 of your super confident heroes!
Imagine what they would do or feel in the situations in which you want to be more self-confident! 🙂
And when you get to the situations, imitate what they would do, I’m telling you, try it, it really works! 🙂
The 5 keys to self-acceptance…
I wanted to dig a bit more into that pillar that is essential to building your confidence.
This can change your life if you’re willing to let it!
1. Start by being aware.
The very first thing to do is to observe without judgment, out of curiosity where you are right now.
Stick to the facts!
Ask yourself:
- How are you?
- How old are you?
- Who are you surrounded by?
- How does your day-to-day life look like?
- How do your weekends look like?
- How are you feeling on a daily basis?
Again, there’s no judgment such as “this is bad, this is good”, we are simply observing where we are standing today!
2. Forgive yourself.
Sometimes, we may describe ourselves as the person we were in the past, what we said or did.
Also, we may have regrets.
So, look at that past version of yourself with compassion and curiosity.
She did her really best and there are no upsides of thinking of what could have been said or done!
Look at that person as if she was your friend, very often we are judging ourselves so much harder than we would judge others!
3. Acceptance doesn’t equal resignation.
Sometimes, people think that when you accept something, it means that you just give up on something, it may have a negative connotation.
Actually, it’s more about letting go of things that happened in the past and focusing on what you actually HAVE control over!
So, it’s really not about accepting and giving up but more of “that happened and it’s in the past, now I can focus on enjoying the present and creating the future that I want for myself”, a bit more empowering, right? 🙂
4. Embrace positive and negative emotions.
Also, we resist so much the idea that life is 50% positive emotions and 50% negative ones.
Nothing has gone wrong! It’s just part of being a human being.
When we accept this, we tend to accept the moments when we feel negative emotions.
Then, we aren’t resisting them by thinking “something’s wrong with me!” or “I have everything to be happy, I shouldn’t complain!”
We can just be in that moment and understand that everything is fine, this too shall pass! 🙂
5. You are ENOUGH! 🙂
Also, self-acceptance is about understanding that we are totally and 100% enough just the way we are! 🙂
There’s no such a thing as being perfect or being enough, it cannot be something that some people are and some people are not, how can we agree on the definition of it?
What is enough? When will we know when we’ll be enough?
So, let’s just decide and accept that we are enough, right here right now! 🙂
As you can see, self-acceptance is a very empowering structure for building self-confidence.
Print, screenshot, remember this list!
I wanted you to have it handy!
Here are the 12 pillars of lasting self-confidence! 🙂
How to build your self-confidence
As you can see, you can start thinking of one pillar you would start with!
Which one made more sense to you?
It’s not a quick-confident scheme, but working on it as you would on any other skill can help you be SUPER self-confident very soon! 🙂
If you’re interested in diving into this, have a look at the following resources that I have to offer:
- 7 Ways To Boost Your Self-Confidence
- 6 Steps to Improving Your Self-Esteem
- 8 Burning Questions About Self-Confidence
Of course, if you want to build your self-confidence, you HAVE to listen to my podcast, the Get Confident Get Happy Podcast!
You can also click on the images to have a look at all the episodes! 🙂
To sum up!
As you can see, self-confidence is a skill to develop!
You CAN become more self-confident in any situation of your life! 🙂
Just start by working/discovering each one of these pillars.
Follow my podcast and everything I have to say about self-confidence, and then, I can assure you that you will build your self-confidence! 🙂
