Wondering how does it feel to be super self-confident? Discover what’s going on inside a self-confident person’s head and start building this skill today!! You can too!!
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✓ Should I read this? You need to read this if you’re interested in building your self-confidence and understanding what your next step is to develop this skill! 🙂
✓ How is it going to help me? By becoming more self-confident, you’ll have full control of your life. You won’t care about what others think/do and you won’t take things personally anymore. All of this will give you peace of mind and a relaxed and quiet attitude!
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What’s going on inside a self-confident person’s head?
Have you ever wondered what are their reactions? Their thoughts? Their feelings?
I wanted to talk about this to show you again, that YOU TOO, you can feel super self-confident.
No one was born with it! 🙂
It’s a skill to develop and I’m 100% convinced that everyone can be as self-confident as they want it to be!
We never learned it at school!!
If you ever struggle with self-doubt or low self-esteem, you HAVE to listen to my podcast, the Get Confident Get Happy podcast! 🙂
What is even self-confidence?
Self-confidence is really the KEY to your success! 🙂
When you are self-confident, you feel like you can conquer the world.
It doesn’t mean that everything will be easy or that without doing anything, you’ll get anything you want! 😉
But, it means that no matter what, you know that you will be okay.
Also, when you are self-confident, you are not afraid of being your most authentic self. You are comfortable being who you truly are and that’s very EMPOWERING! 🙂
Last, but not least, self-confidence is helping you having great and solid relationships. Because you don’t take things personally anymore and you’re more empathetic, you are able to build real connections with your surroundings.
Feeling good being who you truly are, having strong relationships and truly believing in yourself, what else can you ask for more?!
Can I become more self-confident?
Of course, you can! 🙂
You can think of the most self-confident person that you know, this person wasn’t born being self-confident! This person isn’t better than you at ALL! 🙂
It’s a skill that anyone can develop, like anything skill that exists!
Actually and I always say this, it’s typically something that we could learn at school… When you think about it, this skill might help us way more than so many others we’ve been learning…!
So the answer is YES!
Anybody can become more self-confident! No one was born self-confident, so if you have someone in head that is super self-confident, rest assured that YOU can be too!! 🙂
How can I become more self-confident?
You can start by listening to my podcast, the Get Confident Get Happy Podcast and then, by reading my blog and taking my online courses! 🙂
I truly believe that your self-confidence is inside of you and all that you need to do is to bring it out.
How to do it?
By being more self-aware and by learning tips and tricks on how to build it the right way.
Then, it’s all about practice, practice and practice!
Like any other skills, the more you practice it, the more you’ll be AMAZING at it!
Two minutes inside a self-confident person’s head…
So, how does it really look like?
No matter when you may enter this person’s head (in any situations, any hours of the day!), this is what’s going on inside of her head…
They feel quiet, relaxed and serene.
Because they are in peace with who they are, they are comfortable being who they truly are, they know that they are good enough. They don’t need to prove anything to anyone, the only opinion that truly matters is theirs.
They know what their values are and they are standing up for them.
By knowing what is truly important to them, they are respecting their values. If being reliable is important for them, they are keeping their word, no matter the situation, no exception.
They set boundaries.
They say “no” when they want and need to. Because they remember that when they are saying “no”, it’s because they are saying “yes” to something else.
They know what they accomplished in life.
They keep that in mind and remember that they can do whatever they want if they are willing to take the actions to! 🙂
They acknowledge their talents and strengths and use them as resources.
When they do this, they remind themselves that these talents and strengths are “help” to make things easier, to get the results that they want.
They are not taking things personally because they know that everyone is trying to have their needs met and it’s never really about them.
When they look at it this way, they are developing a skill called empathy, which is a key skill to build strong and real relationships with their surroundings.
They may feel stressed, worried or anxious, but are trying to understand why they feel this way.
They know that negative emotions have a positive intention. A need is not being met and they are trying to have this need met. They also let this emotion go. This too shall pass! 🙂
They beat overwhelming, by getting organized with their life.
It’s easy to feel overwhelmed with everything that is around us! Even in this whole mess, they are organizing themselves and keep some time just for themselves so they won’t burn out. You can call it self-care or anything else. 🙂
They are proactive.
When they really want something, they are a fighter! They go out and get it. They aren’t afraid to ask for help. They are going out and not stopping themselves until they get what they really want.
They are not afraid of people’s opinions, because they are the only ones to really know what they truly and deeply really want.
They know that no matter what you will do, people will always have opinions. So, they are understanding the positive intention behind someone’s opinion. But still, they are doing what THEY know will make THEM happy, not others.
They don’t feel happy all the time. They accept that there are positive and negative emotions in life and THAT’S OKAY.
They understood that it’s impossible to feel happy all the time. And that’s okay! They feel less pressure from this. They know that there are days that are good days and some… That are less good! 🙂
They are not afraid of taking actions (making a presentation, sharing their opinion…) because they know that they will be okay no matter what.
They know that when you take actions, you have two consequences: the success (which is what we want of course!) and feedback. They know that feedback isn’t really failing, it’s just something that happened and that is telling you: keep going, you’ll make it eventually! 🙂
They are not comparing themselves because they know that everyone is going their own path in life and THAT’S OKAY.
They may compare themselves to people that are inspiring them. They look at them and say to themselves: “I can say/do/achieve/feel that too!”.
They are surrounding themselves with people that make them feel good.
Colleagues, friends, spouses… THEY are deciding who they are spending their time with. They know that their time is so valuable, so they are spending it ONLY with people that deserve it.
How does it feel to be self-confident?
It simply feels amazing! 🙂
There are many emotions that you may feel the moment that you will be self-confident.
But the main ones can be:
To me, when I feel super self-confident, it’s when I feel quiet, relaxed, determined and motivated.
What about you?!
A concrete example of a self-confident person
If you’re looking for examples of self-confident people, you need to check this post: 6 Self-Confidence Examples to Help You Live Your Best Life.
I just wanted to share with you 2 examples of a situation in which it can be challenging for everyone to be self-confident.
1. Sharing an opinion
It’s not easy to keep on being self-confident in that kind of situations, because people may judge us based on our opinions.
But we need to remember that it’s okay to share opinions, we don’t need to agree on everything! 🙂
Also, a self-confident person keeps in mind that opinions are based on values, experiences, and beliefs.
And when you are empathetic, you understand that everyone has an opinion because of something in particular. It’s not really against you!
This could be a challenging situation, but a self-confident person won’t take things personally and may even be amused by a debate! If people are disagreeing about something, what can really happen??
2. Making a presentation
We may think that a self-confident person isn’t afraid of making a presentation, but that’s not true! 🙂
We all are facing some self-doubt at some time!
But again, they know that self-confidence is a skill to develop. And like any other skills, the more you practice, the better you’ll be at it!
So they are taking a deep breath, making the presentation and they will no that no matter what, they will be okay! 🙂
To sum up!
As you can see, ANYONE can be self-confident.
If you would enter inside a self-confident person’s head, you will see that this person is still facing some self-doubt from time to time.
But the difference is that they don’t make it mean anything.
They know that THEY ARE GOOD ENOUGH, that NO ONE is better than them, they don’t take things personally and they truly truly truly believe in themselves! 🙂
Looks like a nice way to live, right?
YOU CAN TOO, I HAVE 0 DOUBT! 🙂
To a SELF-CONFIDENT YOU! 🙂
You may also be interested in…
- The Tool You Need To Build Your Self-Confidence
- 7 Ways To Boost Your Self-Confidence
- 15 Habits Of Extremely Successful People
- Self-Esteem & Self-Confidence, What’s the Difference?
How do you imagine a self-confident person?
Can you think about something else that could be in the head of a self-confident person? Let me know in the comments section 🙂